SubaruWRX wrote:

Yeah what ^ said. I'm sure if I stayed in Japan for 5 years it wont be long until I find someone, however I'm pretty much to myself, I don't think being shy will help, sometimes I loud and sometimes I just like to sit back and watch stuff for awhile, I've done it since I was small. lol my mom said when I was born I did not cry at all, I just looked around the room. Nov. 27th 1984 7:57PM

dude, you are young only 21 eh?
well if you are around enough j-girls, then your chances go up, could go way up. I think as friends that would be cool, teach in Japan, probably best way to dive in the culture, food, and women. Expose yourself to the culture and people, you will meet some j-people and who knows what could happen.

haha yea I'm 21.. will be 22 in a few more months

Man... the town I live in now has a pretty large Japanese population but most of there kids are young.

I missed the Japanese festival they had here last year...

I hope I hear of it again ahead of time this year.


I've been looking up stuff on Japan for a year now, Listening to J-pop just about 24/7 Until I had to take a little break lol.

lol the only thing stopping me from going is..

I don't have a job right now

And I don't have little green paper bills, lol refer back to not having a job.

btw anyone ever try Kirin beer?

beacuse the Japanese food Mart, as far as I know thats all they have...

SubaruWRX wrote:

btw anyone ever try Kirin beer? beacuse the Japanese food Mart, as far as I know thats all they have...

yeah those japan food marts are cool, lawsons, 7-11....
yeah tried it before, also tried sapporo and Asahi beer.

I want to try Asahi Super Dry, but they don't offer it..
I don't have a clue where I can find it at.

im sorry to say this, but all the japanes girls i know here in toronto, all seem to be very conceited and addicted to weed.

Are they Japanese-American?

kaosrave wrote:

im sorry to say this, but all the japanes girls i know here in toronto, all seem to be very conceited and addicted to weed.

Thats very sad to hear
Goes to show that not all japanese girls are perfect

My mom had a little issue with it.. but I drove my mom nuts... All the way from Connecticut to Quebec Canada, I had nothing but J-pop in the Subaru

Now she is saying "I don't mind you dating or marrying a Japanese girl"
"Just as long as she's Christian"

lol you know how screwed up that is..

Thats just stupid...

SubaruWRX wrote:

btw anyone ever try Kirin beer? beacuse the Japanese food Mart, as far as I know thats all they have...

yeah i have but the kirin sold in most of north america is actually made in los angeles not japan....that's whack, son.

yeah I know.. Would take too long for the beer to get here, and wont be as fresh.

lol I don't care if it is made in Japan or not I just want to taste it.

SubaruWRX wrote:

yeah I know.. Would take too long for the beer to get here, and wont be as fresh. lol I don't care if it is made in Japan or not I just want to taste it.

fair enough...enjoy!

First hand experience...

Well, what can I say, we met accidentally, thanks to a friend of mine. We met a few more times and after a short while it just sparked. Either that or it was just because she was stuck here in Austria (basically a backwater republic and the ass end of the modern world lol) to improve her German skills (and a bit Russian) and felt somewhat alone. Whatever it really was in the end, I can't say I really care.

That was nearly two years ago.

For once, many people here seem to think that all Asians are somewhat from the same country, so, if you're Asian you're either Chinese or from Thailand, and Naoko has been called Chinese and Thai I think countless of times. And well, that didn't really make her feel comfortable. She's Japanese after all, and, as much as this might piss off some people, she's proud of it.

People around here have also always given us funny looks (I'm 6'8" and she's 5'3"), but not only because of the height difference. It came even down to my brother once saying something along the line that I don't manage to get a good Austrian girl and have to date some Asian chick. I never really liked him, and that basically did it from my side (he wrapped his car around a tree while I was in Tokyo in 2004, I haven't visited his grave yet, nor will I ever). But he wasn't the only one to say things like that, every now and then we could hear it in the subway and in other places too (such people are everywhere). Idiots never die out.

My parents actually accepted her without any big problems. Especially my mother who always said that she didn't care who I would be with, as long as I would be happy with it.

As for her family, well... Let me put it this way, the only advantage I have in her father's eyes is, that I'm not American. Everything else is scratching on the edge of being unacceptable. But that's her father. And well, he doesn't really like me and I don't really like him, the feeling is mutual. He doesn't get why from all people on earth it has to be a gaijin, and I don't get why he would cheat on a woman like his wife (it's an open secret, everyone seems to know it, but nobody says anything; for example, when Naoko was 17, he had some 23 or 24 year old OL as, well, you know as what), but oh well.

Her mother on the other hand, well, we get along really good. And I admit, I absolutely love this woman. She's great, going to see kabuki with her is like taking an encyclopedia with you. She has also been telling me hundreds of things that are on her mind, which she can't talk about with her husband. She's not complaining or anything, but 'm certain to feel a certain sadness coming from her when we have time talking about anything.

Her little sister's nearly the same, but well, she's 17 and as she put it, she doesn't really care who her sister dates, as long as he's not a fully scale jerk (*phew* that's a close one lol).

I have to say that I found the acceptance in Japan being better than in Austria. If I take, for example, her friends (her three best friends I've met at Halloween 2003, insane bunch of four really cute young women), they didn't seem to have a problem with me. When one of them married in December she asked us repeatedly if I would be there as well before flying over there.

I think, the smallest problems I have over there are with my generation and the generations after that. Older people, well... it depends, really. Also I think that most people decide to be friendly or polite to me because they're scared/impressed/whatever (up to a certain point of course) of my height (though, I've experienced this in Austria too).

As I said, with older people, it really depends. I've met the other extreme (compared to Naoko's father) as well. Yuki, who's by now also not only Naoko's but also my best friend, somehow managed to introduce me to her parents and her father was completely different to Naoko's. A lot more open and friendly and not the slightest reserved towards me. But maybe this comes partly from family history and social status (Naoko's family is rather old and, if the family history's right, then they used to be samurai once; Yuki's on the other hand is a lot like mine, workers, farmers, peasents, etc; "workers of the world unite"? Maybe lol).

There are other examples, like Naoko's cousin, who's married and has a, by now, 5 year old daughter (who absolutely loves me... geez, I wonder why, possibly because she doesn't get piggy back rides where she's THAT high above the ground when I'm not around, or because the theory about stuffed penguins is right... anyway). And then there's this classmate of Naoko's sister who thinks I'm cute... oi... But that one is a different story.

Summoning it up I think that so far my experiences with the Japanese are better than my experiences with Austrian or Dutch. Actually I'm 100% sure about that. Sure, Naoko and I got funny looks every now and then there as well, but well... first of it doesn't surprise me if you take our height difference, and secondly especially old people who experienced the war and the time after it (and are xenophobic) shut up quickly once they realize I'm Austrian (and thus the former ally) or when I'm in dress uniform. Please note that not all old people there are xenophobic, I've met those too.

I think the biggest problem is sometimes that it is a completely different culture. The good thing of being a gaijin though is, that you're supposed to slip every now and then, which can have its advantages though. Since I'm not Japanese I can go a bit farther in certain areas, because I can usually say "Oh, I didn't know that, sorry".

I'll be in Japan in the end if July and August again (Yuki's getting married, the second one of those four to get hitched). This time Naoko's not coming back with me. Her sabatical is running out and well, I rather have her finish her time on her university in Tokyo than here, simply because, well... I believe that's where her future lies and I don't want to ruin that. But well, that was clear from the beginning, we both knew that we'd only have limited time. And honestly, I don't regret anything.

And this time I'm most likely going to butt heads with her father over the issue of cheating on his wife. I've remained silent for too long, it just pisses me off.

no one can be perfect,not even a japanese girl. i know cause im not perfect! im clumsy, i dont always go by the rules, i speak my mind even if its with adults,well only to rude adults who doesnt know better. ^^

so yeah...no one is perfect.

talking about beer all of a sudden.
they sell japanese beers or wines in mostl any asian places.

too bad not here.. maybe I could ask them.

Tu_triky wrote:

yeah i have but the kirin sold in most of north america is actually made in los angeles not japan....that's whack, son.

. your so funny.
i like japanese candy.
i will quote the cigarrete smoking baby doll from the series family guy , (desighned to encourage young kids to smoke) and say "TASTES LIKE HAPPY", nah but seriously, its so good,
o snap ...im off topic.."my bad"

TANG wrote:

. your so funny. i like japanese candy. i will quote the cigarrete smoking baby doll from the series family guy , (desighned to encourage young kids to smoke) and say "TASTES LIKE HAPPY", nah but seriously, its so good, o snap ...im off topic.."my bad"

so are you! funny...i like that one...hehe....

Haha speaking of Girlfriends... So my cousin is up from FL, and now that he retired from IBM, it's easy to track him now.. lol so we were talking computers and lol asked if I had a girlfriend, then asked why not..

lol I wont tell anyone about the last girlfriend I had... she was 18 years older then me that never lasted.

lol she was so old school she did not know how to do the 69

bmwracer wrote:

I was thinking the wastebasket, but that's just me. Any sugggestions?

I've merged the Japanese Girlfriends thread with the International Relationship thread.
Pretty much the same content.


*edit* Merged topic with an even older Japanese Girlfriend/Boyfriend thread that we had for a while but was forgotten about.
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ahochaude wrote:

*edit* Merged topic with an even older Japanese Girlfriend/Boyfriend thread that we had for a while but was forgotten about.

Until now, unfortunately.