I really want to date and marry japan girl but maybe i can't get it.If i get it,maybe i will not change my love. hahahaaa
Japan girls so cute and i hope can get one of them.hehehee

Enna wrote:

@Eve - The term 'acting white' doesn't have anything to do with what type of white person they are referring to. If someone from a non-white ethnic group is dating a white person and then labeled as 'acting white' it usually means that they have forgotten or are denying their own culture or cultural experiences. Things like food, music, art, books, plays, movies, etc... It might even entail celebrating only certain holidays. Or it could be the way they start speaking. If a a non-white person isn't honoring their own cultural richness, whatever it may be, and is only honoring their white date's cultural wealth, then they might be said to be 'acting white.' I'm not defending that expression, I am just explaining it as I understand it.

Thank you.
Any wide spread generalization terms always confuse me because Im a born "exception to the rule" thinker.
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EstherM wrote:

Me too Shari thanks for this brilliant insight. I have taken notes on the lines to to take when dating a Japanese man!

I know what mean
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In modern dating and courtship, we are still going about it like peacocks, flaunting our advantages, flashing our pretty feathers, concealing our flaws, expecting that will land us a mate. Just like animals with peanut-sized brains.

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shari wrote:

Wow! The hot topic du jour. Here's my take on dating a Japanese guy. If he asks you out, it's because he likes you (obviously) and probably has marriage in mind. If he likes you after this first date, he's likely to point out your flaws. Nothing rude here. Just conventions. If you're overweight for example, he'll expects you to say, "I want to get slim so I may please my husband." Or, "I want to learn to become a good cook so my husband will be please with me (and not beat me up)." My suggested answers: "I intend to lose half of kilo (that's a pound) for every 10,000 yen you'll earn in extra monthly income." And "I'll learn to be a good cook after you learn how to romance a girl." If he still likes you after that, he'll want to introduce you to his family. Remember, you don't be marry a guy in Japan, you marry his family. By the time they meet you, they'll know all about your flaws, and they'll talk endlessly about the virtues of a good Japanese wife while praising those of their son as if he had already reached sainthood. They'll expect you to nod and agree. I suggest you drop a little comment just to show you've got a personality, something like, "If it's a servant His Saintness needs, why doesn't he hire one?" If you pass the family test, the next step is to introduce him to your family. Here's your chance to gauge his humor. Tell him, "My Gypsy in-laws are visiting. Bring a guitar." In the final step before he pushes ze ring across the dinner table with a trembling hand, he will want to come to your place. Not just to see how good you are in bed, but also to see how you'll keep his house. If he takes you a love hotel, it means marriage flew out of his mind. So tell him, "No, honey. That's where I work at night."

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