Geez ganmo-chan, that must have been so tough for you... aren't you from Hawaii? Being American-born and Japanese by race... you have a foot in both camps, so to speak.
Yes, I'm from Hawaii and yes, sometimes it's difficult to have a foot in each camp, figuratively speaking. I know I had relatives in Japan who also fought during the war...maybe they were involved in the attack on Pearl Harbor...or worse...who knows? It feels like that quote from a TV program a long time ago...about the woman who wrote an autobiography of her life in Manzanar. When the man was asked who would he side for, Japan or America...he said, "When your parents are arguing...whose side would you take?"
My grandmother and mother in Hawaii almost lost their lives when Pearl Harbor was attacked. If you think about it, my relatives from Japan may have almost been inadvertantly responsible for what could have been my grandmother's and mother's deaths...funny thought...I wouldn't be here now if that was the case.
When that person said that, you should have replied "Well, do you feel bad about Hiroshima?" Although I doubt you ever would.
Stupid ignorant people...not worth my time or effort to reply. Just a nasty look was all I could give. You're right...I wouldn't have been able to think up an equally insensitive come-back remark at the moment because it was totally unexpected.