What things bother you the most?

Not unless I was purposely trying to get an "F" :hehe: .

shoujo22 wrote:Slang doesn't really bother me at all. Especially since I live here in the south where everyone speaks one form of slang or another :hehe: . There are three things that really bother me:

1. People who criticize other races. It pisses me off beyond words. I can remember being in class one day over hearing two students make fun of how one of the black professors spoke. They said stuff like "Ew I hate it when they say it like this and blah blah blah." The little s*^#s just kept talking and talking, completely disregarding the two african american students in the class. Argh! It was the most tasteless and disrespectful thing that I'd ever seen. Don't be an @$$. What a complete lack of home training. I just wanted to say "DIFFERENT DOES NOT MEAN DEVIANT @$$HOLES! Come off it!" :mad:

This reminds me of an incident that took place on my job quite a few years ago. I was speaking on the phone to one of the managers in "the field" who mispronounced some words and then said to me.."Oh now I sound like a black guy." And then he laughed. Well even though I worked in the Corp. office this field manger who was Caucasian had met me face to face so I guess he felt comfortable saying that to me on the phone. What he didn't realize was that I am an African American woman who happens to look like I am from another race. People often mistake me for Indian or a Hispanic. So I calmly proceeded to tell him on the phone that not all Black people spoke poorly or mispronounced their words or used improper English. In fact none of my family or friends spoke that way. That in fact if he thought about it most of the Black people he met on a day to day basis did not speak that way either. I also told him I would appreciate it if he refrained from those types of negative comments especaily in a our work environment. I worked in the Human Resource Dept. at the time. He apologized for his comments. I assume he must have told all the other "field managers" about me because I never heard another derogatory remark from him or anybody else after that incident. I purposely didn't raise my voice or holler at him so he could really hear what I was saying to him. In fact speaking in a slight whisper in response to people who say rude or insultings things, always makes them sit up an take notice. Sometimes you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar. ;)

Breakfast was Chow Mein w/pork meat :mrgreen:

Think I'm going to have a bowl of cereal now too :hehe:

kenjilina wrote:paris hilton saying 'that's hot!'

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but this is okay right? :hehe:

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krim wrote:

but this is okay right? :hehe:

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:rofl: Thats funny. Nice on Krim :applaud:

K.T.Tran wrote:Breakfast was Chow Mein w/pork meat :mrgreen:

Think I'm going to have a bowl of cereal now too :hehe:

does this bother you? :hehe: :hehe:

krim wrote:

but this is okay right? :hehe:

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ha ha nice one!

wouldn't surprise me if she just couldn't spell! :hehe:

is the dog in the bag?

kenjilina wrote:

does this bother you? :hehe: :hehe:

Just a tiny bit.....it wasn't my mom who cooked it, it was my aunt and her cooking isn't all good. I hope I don't have a stomach ache later today :fingerscrossed:

I happen to be checking out JDorama and saw this thread at the top and decided to post something.

What bothers me is when someone requests a seed for a drama and I seed them until they finish their download... then they leave without helping the rest of the people who were stuck along with them.

I also am bothered by the way somepeople drive. You have to drive defensively nowdays.

I also am bothered by the endless SPAM emails that these irritating companies or people send out.

kenjilina wrote:

ha ha nice one!

wouldn't surprise me if she just couldn't spell! :hehe:

is the dog in the bag?

no idea, i thought the dog was wrapped around her calf. :hehe:

krim wrote:

no idea, i thought the dog was wrapped around her calf. :hehe:

what would we do without paris? :hehe:

she brightens my day up anyway, because she's so damn funny :crazy:

krim wrote:

no idea, i thought the dog was wrapped around her calf. :hehe:

You guys/girls and your cheeky comments :lol:. I'm sitting here just cracking up at work and no one knows why :rofl: .

shoujo22 wrote:1. People who criticize other races. It pisses me off beyond words. I can remember being in class one day over hearing two students make fun of how one of the black professors spoke. They said stuff like "Ew I hate it when they say it like this and blah blah blah." The little s*^#s just kept talking and talking, completely disregarding the two african american students in the class. Argh! It was the most tasteless and disrespectful thing that I'd ever seen. Don't be an @$$. What a complete lack of home training. I just wanted to say "DIFFERENT DOES NOT MEAN DEVIANT @$$HOLES! Come off it!" :mad:

tell me bout it, i already posted this on my lj guess ill say it again, i hate racist remarks when ghetto people complain themselves like "oh its bec. im black/asian/white/samoans huh?" i brought my black friend one day to jollibee (fast food rest.) we were in line and she was first but then she said she has to get something in the car so i held the line for her then the lady already asked me what i want.. so i started ordering right? then my friend came back and i told her that i just ordered cuz i dont want anyone holding off the line and she could just go after me.. but she didnt really wanna hear me and ended up blaming the lady she was looking at the lady and was like, "hey i was first .. is this bec. im black huh?" its like wtf?!

I also am bothered by the way somepeople drive. You have to drive defensively nowdays.

ahh dont start with this cuz im about to list down what i hate hahah one of the top 3 annoying ones is when people leave their left or right lights on and not making a move.. its like geez are you deaf for not hearing them blink?! or its like, are you gonna turn or not cuz im gonna speed up instead of giving u more room?!

stuff like that :grumble:

MixxDreamer wrote:tell me bout it, i already posted this on my lj guess ill say it again, i hate racist remarks when ghetto people complain themselves like "oh its bec. im black/asian/white/samoans huh?" i brought my black friend one day to jollibee (fast food rest.) we were in line and she was first but then she said she has to get something in the car so i held the line for her then the lady already asked me what i want.. so i started ordering right? then my friend came back and i told her that i just ordered cuz i dont want anyone holding off the line and she could just go after me.. but she didnt really wanna hear me and ended up blaming the lady she was looking at the lady and was like, "hey i was first .. is this bec. im black huh?" its like wtf?!

Sometimes MixxDreamer those "ghetto" people who complain about those types of situaltions, do so because they are used to being treated badly in public. So instead of giving others the benefit of the doubt, they walk around with a big chip on their shoulders, just waiting to be discriminated against. Paranoia does start to set in. Try taking a look at it from your black friend's perspective. Yeah she did need to calm down and not make a 'federal case' out the waiting in line situation at jollibee but maybe next time you could try to have a quiet conversation with her about it afterwards and let her see that not everyone is out to 'get' her just bec. she is black! :) Perhaps you could help her see that she needs to take responsibility for her own behavior and actions. ;) :)

shoujo22 wrote:

You guys/girls and your cheeky comments :lol:. I'm sitting here just cracking up at work and no one knows why :rofl: .

glad to be of service. :naughty:

shoujo22 wrote:

You guys/girls and your cheeky comments :lol:. I'm sitting here just cracking up at work and no one knows why :rofl: .

you should really thank paris! :hehe:

she's the reason for our humour!! :hehe: :hehe:

Enna wrote:Sometimes MixxDreamer those "ghetto" people who complain about those types of situaltions, do so because they are used to being treated badly in public. So instead of giving others the benefit of the doubt, they walk around with a big chip on their shoulders, just waiting to be discriminated against. Paranoia does start to set in. Try taking a look at it from your black friend's perspective. Yeah she did need to calm down and not make a 'federal case' out the waiting in line situation at jollibee but maybe next time you could try to have a quiet conversation with her about it afterwards and let her see that not everyone is out to 'get' her just bec. she is black! :) Perhaps you could help her see that she needs to take responsibility for her own behavior and actions. ;) :)

wait, you act like as if you know my friend but no you dont, i know where she came from and she lives in a good neighborhood as i am, richer than i am, we grew up together actually but not in the same neighborhood and i never complain bout my race when im around her family and friends.. sometimes she does that for fun seriouisly.. and she does take advantage of her situation, and yes i am not ignorant i am aware that shes black. i told her how many times not to joke like that and she does apologize and says shes only joking. i do get serious when it comes to this and she still does it.

MixxDreamer wrote:wait, you act like as if you know my friend but no you dont, i know where she came from and she lives in a good neighborhood as i am, richer than i am, we grew up together actually but not in the same neighborhood and i never complain bout my race when im around her family and friends.. sometimes she does that for fun seriouisly.. and she does take advantage of her situation, and yes i am not ignorant i am aware that shes black. i told her how many times not to joke like that and she does apologize and says shes only joking. i do get serious when it comes to this and she still does it.

Hi MixxDreamer,

Please don't misunderstand. I never said I knew your friend but you did not say that she was 'joking' in this situation. I never said you weren't aware she was Black. Plus whether or not she is rich or lives in a good neighborhood has nothing at all to do with the different way she may have gotten treated in stores or places of business before.

This is part of what you said you said that brought out my response:

MixxDreamer wrote:tell me bout it, i already posted this on my lj guess ill say it again, i hate racist remarks when ghetto people complain themselves like "oh its bec. im black/asian/white/samoans huh?"

You called her a 'ghetto' person and I didn't get the impression that any of these folks that you mentioned, that bothered you, were joking. By 'ghetto' I assume you mean ignorant in their behavior, Right? That in itself is not a compliment to all the people who happen to live in ghettos and are not ignorant in any way. Sorry. Maybe I totally misunderstood what you were trying to say.

and just to comment on this last thing you said:

MixxDreamer wrote:and i never complain bout my race when im around her family and friends.. sometimes she does that for fun seriouisly.. and she does take advantage of her situation, and yes i am not ignorant i am aware that shes black. i told her how many times not to joke like that and she does apologize and says shes only joking. i do get serious when it comes to this and she still does it

Since your friend jokes about race and you have asked her not to many times and she still does it anyway then obviously she either enjoys doing it just to 'mess' with you or she is self conscious about her race. Take this for what it is worth MixxDreamer. I am an African American woman (with a Mother who was Black and a father who was White) and I graduated from a predominantly African American university (Howard University) and I grew up in a middle class suburbs in NY, so I do think I might have a small understanding of your friend. I was not trying to insult you or your intelligence, not at all, but since her behavior bothers YOU then you have a few choices. Either lighten up and let her comments roll off your back (ignore them), or stop being her friend, or find out why she doesn't respect your wishes about her behavior in these situations, even though she knows it bothers you.

Hope you and your friend will be friends for a long time. :)

oops double post...so sorry! :say_oops:

first off, to comment on this which i forgot to answer..

Enna wrote:those "ghetto" people who complain about those types of situaltions, do so because they are used to being treated badly in public. So instead of giving others the benefit of the doubt, they walk around with a big chip on their shoulders, just waiting to be discriminated against.

i understand that but usually it was the other way around, ive been treated badly in public not her. i dont make racial remarks like that. not ever, even if i was trying or being ghetto.

Enna wrote:Either lighten up and let her comments roll off your back (ignore them), or stop being her friend, or find out why she doesn't respect your wishes about her behavior in these situations, even though she knows it bothers you.

honestly i was annoyed that i was being lectured, i apologize if i made offense of my post, i just recently saw the movie of CRASH and that post from Shoujo came across me.. i do come from a ghetto neighborhood and i understand what it means and how they are. and yes shes still my friend, we just dont go to the same school so we dont usually hang out as much as we used to. and i do accept her flaws, even if shes half assed, she can be down to earth at times too.

and the thing is im not the only person why she does that, her asian friends most of all, including me. probably because she knows that theyre not gonna do anything about it and she wants to take advantage of that. im usually the person who always confronts her and it pisses me off that nobody wants to step in not even her parents (do u feel my pressure?)

and by what i said the word ghetto, everyone uses it now, you'd be suprised that people used that word as part of our vocabulary its not even a compliment nor an insult anymore, and if it does i apologize if you took that the wrong way. i respect your point of views, ill take that to the heart, and im glad that we straighten things out, i know i wasnt fully detailed at first, i dont wanna blurt out my whole life as if its my own blog. feel free to PM me instead if this goes out of hand.