I'm Going To Japan
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the only picture i didn't post was hachiko peeing on my shoe.
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this article is amusing & funny
www.asahi.com
Casanova of the streets
09/09/2006
BY MAYUMI SAITO STAFF WRITER
Even with his ready smile and his bald head concealed under a brown wig, nobody is likely to mistake Satoshi Fujita for Brad Pitt or any other babe magnet. However, those tempted to snicker at the thought of the 47-year-old guy picking up a woman on the street should think again.
During our 20-minute photo shoot in Tokyo's Shinjuku district, he spotted a "target" on the sidewalk. Fujita displayed no shyness at initiating a conversation with this attractive, well-dressed stranger. Would she dash off or whack him with her bag? Nope. She listened, smiled and laughed. It was a clear victory for our 164-centimeter-tall Don Juan.
His pickup line? "Are you on your way back from the Paris Collection?" OK, not exactly magic, but the woman was obviously flattered.
"The opener is crucial. You can't grab a woman's attention with a conventional line," Fujita says. "The worst thing you can do is to start interrogating like a cop: 'Where are you going?' 'Are you free?' and so on."
His advice seemed convincing. He says he's attended more than 2,500 matchmaking parties. He's honed his nanpa (pickup) skills on the streets for more than six years.
Not content to be merely a sidewalk Casanova, Fujita began a cram school for losers in 2002, promising to teach students how to pickup babes alfresco.
The Motenai Otoko no Nanpa-juku (Pickup school for losers) offers 10 courses in the pickup arts. Fujita's most popular offering is the street trial lesson. His hands-on coaching also encompasses fashion tips, conversation skills and how to perform magic tricks at the table. Students also discover good dating spots and finally a systematic, how-to lecture on sex.
The fee is 30,000 yen for each course. Running from three to seven hours long, the courses may include both classroom and real-world instruction. Some classes feature guest lecturers.
Fujita says about 100 men a month sign up for classes. About two-thirds of his students are repeat customers who have already completed one lesson or more.
His students may start out alone, but according to Fujita, they don't all stay that way--a number of his students have gone on to get married.
"Many men are scared of women and struggling to find a girlfriend," Fujita says. It is an observation based on personal experience. He says a hairline that began to retreat in his mid-20s left him with low self-esteem.
Afraid to approach women he was attracted to, Fujita bought a toupee. He was 34 and hoped it would transform his life. Though the rug gave his confidence a bit of a boost, he says he soon realized he still had no guts nor the techniques needed to catch and hold on to a woman.
Nevertheless, he wanted to get married and began to hunt for a wife. He went on many blind dates. They ended badly. The matchmaking parties weren't any better. However, during his search, Fujita met a few confident pickup artists among the male throng. He asked these men to mentor him. At last, he moved his operation to the streets, the most fertile ground for approaching females, he says.
Talking to a stranger on the street sounds daunting and not too rewarding. But Fujita says he liked the perfect autonomy he enjoyed there. He could pick out his type of woman, rather than being stuck with "calculating" women at parties.
Over time, he constructed his own techniques via trial and error. This meant thousands of approaches and almost as many rejections. Finally, four years ago, Fujita says he was ready. He quit his job to teach his nanpa and dating tips full time.
Fujita, who worked in sales for more than 10 years at various firms, says talking to women is completely different from giving a regular sales pitch. "Instead of presenting logic to women, you have to appeal to their intuition."
Citing his extensive experience, he claims he's discovered a secret that improves the chances of overcoming a woman's resistance by "10 to 100 fold." A self-styled master of the art of love, Fujita claims to be a veteran of more than 10,000 dates. Between dates, he has somehow found the time to write three books about dating.
Fujita says his nanpa strategy is centered on U.S. psychologist Elliot Aronson's theory that compliments are more appreciated from a stranger than from husbands or long-term boyfriends.
When on the hunt, he bombards his prey with compliments to get the woman to let her guard down. The compliments must be original and wrapped in humor. He says they can be downright silly, just as long as they make the target of his ardor smile.
In this respect, Fujita's method clearly contradicts tips by Canadian writer Neil Strauss' "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists," a current best seller in the West. While the book suggests provoking a woman with a slightly offensive remark, Fujita gives a big no-no to the idea.
"Maybe that tactic works for the Westerners who already have advantages like good looks or are used to frank conversations with strangers of the opposite sex. But for the below-average Japanese guy, offending someone you've just met only turns the woman off and blows the guy's chance forever."
He also teaches his original "seven-second rule," which consists of five seconds of talking and two seconds of silence to give the woman a chance to respond. "After getting her attention, you need to introduce who you are in the first five seconds. That's as long as a woman's attention span lasts on the street." He says that the seven-second rule also applies to establish the rhythm of the conversation that hopefully follows.
Fujita is convinced that women enjoy being picked up. While many of his students are too intimidated to approach good-looking women in fear of rejection, he says that is a complete misconception. "The prettier the woman is, the better chance she will believe the over-the-top compliments."
The key, he says, is to study the target carefully to determine if she is likely to have time to chat and to approach her in a non-scary manner.
Even with his limited English, Fujita says he's found Western women far more open to the street game than their Japanese counterparts.
When one of his students--to nearly everyone's surprise--picked up a tall blonde woman, she told him that he was the first guy who'd hit on her after three days in Japan. She actually complained that Japan was extremely backward in the pickup department, according to Fujita. Even among the Japanese women, Fujita finds those who were born or educated overseas easier to approach.
"Even though most women like getting attention from men, Japanese society plays down this factor and applauds modesty," Fujita says. "This results in an inability by both sexes to present themselves appealingly and the low status of street nanpa."
He also laments the lack of relationship training in school and that it must be self-taught.
"It's such a big loss to have so many adults in agony like I was because they don't know the basics. If there was a way of learning it efficiently and systematically, why not give it a shot?"
An obvious question arises. Why does he still rely on the wig during the nanpa experience? In one of his books he shares a comical, if painful, experience. Right in the middle of making a marriage proposal at Disneyland, a gust of wind blew his wig out of place.
The woman in question later turned him down over the phone, saying that she was disillusioned for having been long duped.
Fujita explains that the wig functions like a security blanket, enhancing his self-esteem just as nice clothes do for a woman. But, he emphasizes, recently he has been unveiling the naked truth quite soon, as early as the first date. "What women hate most are guys with low self-esteem. The key is to reveal your weaknesses gradually and in a cheerful way."
Fujita's long personal mission is almost accomplished. He's now in a serious relationship with a woman he met on the street--where else?--who loves everything beneath the wig. He seems convinced that a soul mate is out there waiting for everyone; it's all a matter of taking the right road.(IHT/Asahi: September 9,2006)
www.asahi.com
Casanova of the streets
09/09/2006
BY MAYUMI SAITO STAFF WRITER
Even with his ready smile and his bald head concealed under a brown wig, nobody is likely to mistake Satoshi Fujita for Brad Pitt or any other babe magnet. However, those tempted to snicker at the thought of the 47-year-old guy picking up a woman on the street should think again.
During our 20-minute photo shoot in Tokyo's Shinjuku district, he spotted a "target" on the sidewalk. Fujita displayed no shyness at initiating a conversation with this attractive, well-dressed stranger. Would she dash off or whack him with her bag? Nope. She listened, smiled and laughed. It was a clear victory for our 164-centimeter-tall Don Juan.
His pickup line? "Are you on your way back from the Paris Collection?" OK, not exactly magic, but the woman was obviously flattered.
"The opener is crucial. You can't grab a woman's attention with a conventional line," Fujita says. "The worst thing you can do is to start interrogating like a cop: 'Where are you going?' 'Are you free?' and so on."
His advice seemed convincing. He says he's attended more than 2,500 matchmaking parties. He's honed his nanpa (pickup) skills on the streets for more than six years.
Not content to be merely a sidewalk Casanova, Fujita began a cram school for losers in 2002, promising to teach students how to pickup babes alfresco.
The Motenai Otoko no Nanpa-juku (Pickup school for losers) offers 10 courses in the pickup arts. Fujita's most popular offering is the street trial lesson. His hands-on coaching also encompasses fashion tips, conversation skills and how to perform magic tricks at the table. Students also discover good dating spots and finally a systematic, how-to lecture on sex.
The fee is 30,000 yen for each course. Running from three to seven hours long, the courses may include both classroom and real-world instruction. Some classes feature guest lecturers.
Fujita says about 100 men a month sign up for classes. About two-thirds of his students are repeat customers who have already completed one lesson or more.
His students may start out alone, but according to Fujita, they don't all stay that way--a number of his students have gone on to get married.
"Many men are scared of women and struggling to find a girlfriend," Fujita says. It is an observation based on personal experience. He says a hairline that began to retreat in his mid-20s left him with low self-esteem.
Afraid to approach women he was attracted to, Fujita bought a toupee. He was 34 and hoped it would transform his life. Though the rug gave his confidence a bit of a boost, he says he soon realized he still had no guts nor the techniques needed to catch and hold on to a woman.
Nevertheless, he wanted to get married and began to hunt for a wife. He went on many blind dates. They ended badly. The matchmaking parties weren't any better. However, during his search, Fujita met a few confident pickup artists among the male throng. He asked these men to mentor him. At last, he moved his operation to the streets, the most fertile ground for approaching females, he says.
Talking to a stranger on the street sounds daunting and not too rewarding. But Fujita says he liked the perfect autonomy he enjoyed there. He could pick out his type of woman, rather than being stuck with "calculating" women at parties.
Over time, he constructed his own techniques via trial and error. This meant thousands of approaches and almost as many rejections. Finally, four years ago, Fujita says he was ready. He quit his job to teach his nanpa and dating tips full time.
Fujita, who worked in sales for more than 10 years at various firms, says talking to women is completely different from giving a regular sales pitch. "Instead of presenting logic to women, you have to appeal to their intuition."
Citing his extensive experience, he claims he's discovered a secret that improves the chances of overcoming a woman's resistance by "10 to 100 fold." A self-styled master of the art of love, Fujita claims to be a veteran of more than 10,000 dates. Between dates, he has somehow found the time to write three books about dating.
Fujita says his nanpa strategy is centered on U.S. psychologist Elliot Aronson's theory that compliments are more appreciated from a stranger than from husbands or long-term boyfriends.
When on the hunt, he bombards his prey with compliments to get the woman to let her guard down. The compliments must be original and wrapped in humor. He says they can be downright silly, just as long as they make the target of his ardor smile.
In this respect, Fujita's method clearly contradicts tips by Canadian writer Neil Strauss' "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists," a current best seller in the West. While the book suggests provoking a woman with a slightly offensive remark, Fujita gives a big no-no to the idea.
"Maybe that tactic works for the Westerners who already have advantages like good looks or are used to frank conversations with strangers of the opposite sex. But for the below-average Japanese guy, offending someone you've just met only turns the woman off and blows the guy's chance forever."
He also teaches his original "seven-second rule," which consists of five seconds of talking and two seconds of silence to give the woman a chance to respond. "After getting her attention, you need to introduce who you are in the first five seconds. That's as long as a woman's attention span lasts on the street." He says that the seven-second rule also applies to establish the rhythm of the conversation that hopefully follows.
Fujita is convinced that women enjoy being picked up. While many of his students are too intimidated to approach good-looking women in fear of rejection, he says that is a complete misconception. "The prettier the woman is, the better chance she will believe the over-the-top compliments."
The key, he says, is to study the target carefully to determine if she is likely to have time to chat and to approach her in a non-scary manner.
Even with his limited English, Fujita says he's found Western women far more open to the street game than their Japanese counterparts.
When one of his students--to nearly everyone's surprise--picked up a tall blonde woman, she told him that he was the first guy who'd hit on her after three days in Japan. She actually complained that Japan was extremely backward in the pickup department, according to Fujita. Even among the Japanese women, Fujita finds those who were born or educated overseas easier to approach.
"Even though most women like getting attention from men, Japanese society plays down this factor and applauds modesty," Fujita says. "This results in an inability by both sexes to present themselves appealingly and the low status of street nanpa."
He also laments the lack of relationship training in school and that it must be self-taught.
"It's such a big loss to have so many adults in agony like I was because they don't know the basics. If there was a way of learning it efficiently and systematically, why not give it a shot?"
An obvious question arises. Why does he still rely on the wig during the nanpa experience? In one of his books he shares a comical, if painful, experience. Right in the middle of making a marriage proposal at Disneyland, a gust of wind blew his wig out of place.
The woman in question later turned him down over the phone, saying that she was disillusioned for having been long duped.
Fujita explains that the wig functions like a security blanket, enhancing his self-esteem just as nice clothes do for a woman. But, he emphasizes, recently he has been unveiling the naked truth quite soon, as early as the first date. "What women hate most are guys with low self-esteem. The key is to reveal your weaknesses gradually and in a cheerful way."
Fujita's long personal mission is almost accomplished. He's now in a serious relationship with a woman he met on the street--where else?--who loves everything beneath the wig. He seems convinced that a soul mate is out there waiting for everyone; it's all a matter of taking the right road.(IHT/Asahi: September 9,2006)
Tu_triky wrote: He could pick out his type of woman, rather than being stuck with "calculating" women at parties.
"Instead of presenting logic to women, you have to appeal to their intuition."
Fujita says his nanpa strategy is centered on U.S. psychologist Elliot Aronson's theory that compliments are more appreciated from a stranger than from husbands or long-term boyfriends.
When on the hunt, he bombards his prey with compliments to get the woman to let her guard down. The compliments must be original and wrapped in humor. He says they can be downright silly, just as long as they make the target of his ardor smile.
While the book suggests provoking a woman with a slightly offensive remark, Fujita gives a big no-no to the idea.
"What women hate most are guys with low self-esteem. The key is to reveal your weaknesses gradually and in a cheerful way."
Wow, he really knows what he's talking about! :applaud:
"The prettier the woman is, the better chance she will believe the over-the-top compliments."
Even with his limited English, Fujita says he's found Western women far more open to the street game than their Japanese counterparts.
Interesting... :headscratch:
I'm not at all surprised that he's been so successful with his cram school. I mean, I really do believe that men, especially in Japan, where society claims that women are passive, have a really hard job, because everything in the relationship lies mostly on their shoulders. This guy is a genius. I'm surprised no one thought of this before... since it's such a simple idea.
Good find, Tu-san! :thumbsup: It was an amusing read. :D
Wynter wrote:
Interesting... :headscratch:
I'm not at all surprised that he's been so successful with his cram school. I mean, I really do believe that men, especially in Japan, where society claims that women are passive, have a really hard job, because everything in the relationship lies mostly on their shoulders. This guy is a genius. I'm surprised no one thought of this before... since it's such a simple idea.
Good find, Tu-san! :thumbsup: It was an amusing read. :D
This is amusing, but I think it's a great idea. There are lots of good people out there, men and women, who would benefit from a little relationship coaching.
At the same time, there are many fools who are alone and attribute it entirely to factors other than their personality. They think that all they have to do is get breast implants or have an expensive car and their life will be easy, with respect to attracting the opposite sex. Naive.
Of course, when you look like Brad Pitt or Heidi Klum, you don't have to have a great personality, if you know what I mean. :hehe:
Cheers, :drink:
PCM
pcmodem wrote:
This is amusing, but I think it's a great idea. There are lots of good people out there, men and women, who would benefit from a little relationship coaching.
Yup! And it all goes back to low self-esteem, like the article suggests. I mean, personally, I have no problem with bald guys. One of the most attracitve guys at my workplace is bald (:drooling:) but because society in general tends to dictate how people should look and what is aesthetically pleasing, it's no wonder more and more are not happy with their physical presence.
Ya know... I don't find Brad Pitt that good looking... :sweat: But I know exactly what you're talking about :mrgreen:
A lot of what this guy says is true. I've been at Dodger games(making sure I'm wearing my Hideo Nomo t-shirt) and if I make eye contact with a Japanese girl, I just nod and say "Yoroshiku onegashimasu" This almost always gets a surprised look/laugh and we usually strike up a conversation. Makes for a lot more interesting Dodger game. :naughty:
gaijin mark wrote:A lot of what this guy says is true. I've been at Dodger games(making sure I'm wearing my Hideo Nomo t-shirt) and if I make eye contact with a Japanese girl, I just nod and say "Yoroshiku onegashimasu" This almost always gets a surprised look/laugh and we usually strike up a conversation. Makes for a lot more interesting Dodger game. :naughty:
hahah....that's funny....and pretty cool. ^_^ peeling on chcks at the game...and ppl say they go for the Dodger dogs.
Tu_triky wrote:But it works!!! The first time it ever happened was by accident. I was standing there minding my own business and these 2 Japanese girls walked up, one held up her camera and I said, "Shasin?" There eyes bugged out and I know they were both thinking "Holy Shit,(or the Japanese equivalent) this guy speaks Japanese!" [/list:u]
hahah....that's funny....and pretty cool. ^_^ peeling on chcks at the game...and ppl say they go for the Dodger dogs.
gaijin mark wrote: But it works!!! The first time it ever happened was by accident. I was standing there minding my own business and these 2 Japanese girls walked up, one held up her camera and I said, "Shasin?" There eyes bugged out and I know they were both thinking "Holy Shit,(or the Japanese equivalent) this guy speaks Japanese!" [/list:u]
i don't doubt it. :bow:
that's pretty cool...man.....i had similar experiences when i was in japan....i know the feeling...the reaction is pretty comical. ^_^
gaijin mark wrote: But it works!!! The first time it ever happened was by accident. I was standing there minding my own business and these 2 Japanese girls walked up, one held up her camera and I said, "Shasin?" There eyes bugged out and I know they were both thinking "Holy Shit,(or the Japanese equivalent) this guy speaks Japanese!" [/list:u]
lol :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
They kawaii??
K.T.Tran wrote:ALL Japanese girls are kawaii!!! :woot: [/list:u] (and if that makes me a racist bastard, that's o.k. with me :hehe: )
They kawaii??
gaijin mark wrote: ALL Japanese girls are kawaii!!! :woot: [/list:u] (and if that makes me a racist bastard, that's o.k. with me :hehe: )
now i know you must have hit that sake too hard :P
...trust me, that's FAR from true :sweat:
gaijin mark wrote: ALL Japanese girls are kawaii!!! :woot: [/list:u] (and if that makes me a racist bastard, that's o.k. with me :hehe: )
so.......that lead girl in Busu drama is kawaii????
The short debu chibi girl :sweat: :sweat:
O.K. O.K. O.K. maybe not "all" (the girl that played Ryoko's sister in Seikei Bijin comes to mind) :bow: :bow: :bow:
gaijin mark wrote:O.K. O.K. O.K. maybe not "all" (the girl that played Ryoko's sister in Seikei Bijin comes to mind) :bow: :bow: :bow:
the one with the glasses???? :hehe:
K.T.Tran wrote:Yup, and the lady that played their mom was no day at the beach either :bleh: [/list:u]
the one with the glasses???? :hehe:
gaijin mark wrote: Yup, and the lady that played their mom was no day at the beach either :bleh: [/list:u]
True, but she was amazingly hilarious :rofl: :rofl:
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