TANG wrote:
your whole comment to me says "i date women based only on their looks"
cmon how could you say u dont wanna date a blonde ever again?
thas so messed up, your soul mate could look like every other woman you have ever seen, but your just interested on whats on tha outside. you would problee look right over her personality,.
you act like it doesnt matter whether er not she is cool, er smart er nice.
your main thing is "she doesnt look like tha other women i have dated"
with that attitude your gonna miss out man,
you should never say stuff like that.
....or you at least, shouldnt be proud of it
Alright... Rule one before making an alasysis: gather all facts.
Well, for once, actually you're somewhat wrong. How can I say I don't want to date a blonde ever again? It's easy, I just don't find them interesting. And most blondes I know are sluts, a small number aren't but most of them... just make me shudder.
Also, where does that have to do anything with being interested in just what's on the outside. You shouldn't try reading something between the lines when there's nothing to read. I seriously doubt I'll ever miss out, and honestly, taking most European women I know... I'd appreciate missing out. That way I don't have to deal with them and I'm glad about that.
And honestly, it doesn't matter to me if she's cool or not. I wouldn't be interesting because I'm 100% sure that she woud lack a certain something. And so far I've only found this certain something on women like Naoko, or Yuki, or Naoko's mother, or etc etc etc.
My main thing is surely not "she doesnt look like tha other women i have dated", sorry to burst that bubble. There's a lot more than just looks (if I would go for only that I'd find mega sluts like Paris Hilton interesting, but I'd rather shoot myself than letting someone like that within 20 yards of me).
I've been in relationships with European women before Naoko (too bad she has to go back home because her sabbatical is running out, but oh well, we had two extremly good years), mainly Austrians, but also a Dutch. But you know, none of them would be a match for Naoko. They're insignificant compared to her. Sure, they were taller, and would be considered more attractive in Europe, and I know that Jen, the Dutch one, was overall nicer than Naoko but eh... None of them had this certain something.
I think the best example for a woman who absolutely fascinates me is still Naoko's mother. She's 48, but looks like some 38, amazing. But she also has this mixture of a feminine side and a very well developed dedication. She's not really tall, but I can always sense a certain strength and willpower in her. It's that mixture that makes her absolutely great. I owe it to her that I finally understood what "ganbatte wa" means. I get along great with her, and I'm not calling her "hime" for no reason. She's a lady, every inch a real lady. For me she's, well, the wife of my daimyo. I think, given the right circumstances, I would kill for her, maybe even die for her (I know I would for Naoko).
Agreed, some European woman could be smart, cool, nice, etc, but I'm 100% sure that she wouldn't have "it". And that... makes them absolutely not interesting for me. Without "it", no chance. And honestly, I doubt there's any woman in Europe who could be a match for Naoko. That's impossible.
People learn from experience, don't forget that. And my experience tells me to stay away from European women, or white women in general (or maybe I should say non-asian women?). That's the way it is.
As for soulmates... for once, I'm not sure if such things even exist, maybe, maybe not. And secondly, I know she's not in Europe. And well, I will look over her personality if she's European, tough luck. That's the way it goes. I'm not willing to make any concessions, I'm too old for such games. Either 100% or forget it. "Aut Casear, aut nihil" as the Romans once put it. If there's something like a soulmate, I know I will find her and I already know where she is. The problem is just finding her. That'll take a while.
And yes, if she's not on a similar level as Naoko (or her mother, or Yuki, or or or... etc) I won't be interested. Such is life. People have experiences and preferrences, and surely nobody has the right to judge or argue about my preferrences.
KouSeiya315 wrote:Yeah, because all of us with blonde hair and blue eyes have the exact same personality and background.
Did I say that? Nope. Did you want to read it that way? More likely. If you would have read all of it you'd have seen that I mean the whole cultural background. There's nothing to learn by dating a French or Dutch or Austrian woman, it's basically the same culture, for me, it's boring. I also want to learn something from the relationship. And no, I usually don't go for the "just" date thing anyway, that's even more boring. Agreed it's somewhat interesting when you're younger, but after a few years it gets boring. By now I say either 100% or forget it.
Fact is, I consider them boring, so sue me. Either cry me a river or get over it.
And I still say, no woman in Europe can ever be a match for Naoko.
And another lesson from experience... Those who point fingers first and whine loudest are usually the ones who're most guilty fo whatever they're accusing you of. I doubt that anyone here is 100% neutral in such a case, most are just too scared to admit it.