Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice

inamoto_yoi wrote:The reason why i don't like with Halloween is i don't like scary :fingerscrossed: . My religion also say cannot celebrate it.

You cant wear costumes in your religion? Which one is that:headscratch:

Kijinnmaru wrote:
Slow learners, students and faculty alike. :hehe: And my attempts to sweep you off your feet for the last year continues to go unnoticed..... :shamefulcry:

:ashamed:

Stopping the visits from colleagues should be as easy as putting your foot down if Canada has the same workplace rules as the States.

But it's not harassment. One of them used to work in my office last year, but his moved to History. The other one works across the hall and comes over for lunch. :doh:

EstherM wrote:

What about having an easygoing date with the one who asked you out and than see how the jealous one reacts. :victory:

That's what one of my colleagues suggested, as well. But then I'd feel like I'm using the one, and manipulating the other.

Itazura ichiban wrote:

Don't know. Please send a bottle for testing! :hehe:

Men's signals are hard to read? Try a weekend on the other side of the fence, my dear. :banghead:

Seems that, anymore, a woman will flash me a cryptic signal, and while I process this and figure out what she was trying to say (and this make take me a day or a week!) she decides that I did not respond instantly and correctly and has moved on to the next name in her black book. Geez. :grumble:

I think girls are so annoying! Mebbe my problem is that I think too much like a guy...

Eve wrote:

Im not surprised with the fantastic makeup Ive seen you in on Halloween! ;)

Is the jealous one worth the effort of having hassles at work if it's no good?

Hmmmm... I might have been in love with him last year... but I outgrew that.

Wynter wrote:

Hmmmm... I might have been in love with him last year... but I outgrew that.

Too bad for him! ;)

we can wear costumes but cannot celebrate it with west style like we can go to all house and collect candy but cannot make another people scary. This my religion teach. We can celebrate any festival but cannot calebrate it with make another people feel unhappy.

inamoto_yoi wrote:we can wear costumes but cannot celebrate it with west style like we can go to all house and collect candy but cannot make another people scary. This my religion teach. We can celebrate any festival but cannot calebrate it with make another people feel unhappy.

The scare factor is just in fun.
Glad you get to collect candy at least. :victory:

BTW- The #! most worn costume in the USA this year wasnt scary at all. It was Princess outfits. ;)

Recently, I was at a supermarket to buy some usual stuff. When I came to pay for my goods, the girl behind the counter started asking me questions which have nothing to do with her job. For instance, she asked me where I work. Now, I'm not so big in the whole 'relationship-scene', so I'm blind to some things. My question to you all here is: Do you thinks she's just being nice? Or might it be that she's interested in me?

Thank you for your answers!

^ If you misinterpret her kindness for something else and make a move and it fails, you'll never be able to show your face at that supermarket again. :sweat:

Aya_Man_1988 wrote:Recently, I was at a supermarket to buy some usual stuff. When I came to pay for my goods, the girl behind the counter started asking me questions which have nothing to do with her job. For instance, she asked me where I work. Now, I'm not so big in the whole 'relationship-scene', so I'm blind to some things. My question to you all here is: Do you thinks she's just being nice? Or might it be that she's interested in me?

Thank you for your answers!

next time you see her again, why don't you startup the casual convo again (or see if she does) and just see how it goes

usually if conversation continues outside the first time, you usually get that "vibe" if she's interested or not

Wynter wrote:So I've suddenly, and very unexpectedly, become popular at work. One colleague asked me out and another has started showing his jealous colours. I'm utterly confused because I may like the jealous one, but his signals are so hard to understand.

And the quota of kids asking me out has gone up. What's in the water these days?

Of course, while pondering this new phenomenon, I've realized that I really don't want the attention at all. I like being my lonesome self and wish the constant visits to my class and "hanging out" in my office after school would just stop.

just be flattered by the whole thing! eventually all of that will stop altogether! ;D

nocturn4l3030 wrote:

next time you see her again, why don't you startup the casual convo again (or see if she does) and just see how it goes

usually if conversation continues outside the first time, you usually get that "vibe" if she's interested or not

Well, I have to mention that she asked talked to me before...
In the end, she asked me where I worked, but I didn't hear her because I was already gone. Next time I showed my face, she mentioned that one fact, and asked it again. In the end she wished me a nice weekend and I wished her the same. At that moment she told me she wouldn't be done for the next day, 9.00 pm.

Would this count as 'she's interested in me?'

Aya_Man_1988 wrote:
Well, I have to mention that she asked talked to me before...
In the end, she asked me where I worked, but I didn't hear her because I was already gone. Next time I showed my face, she mentioned that one fact, and asked it again. In the end she wished me a nice weekend and I wished her the same. At that moment she told me she wouldn't be done for the next day, 9.00 pm.

Would this count as 'she's interested in me?'

yea i would probably have to say she's probably at least a little bit interested... no one usually goes out of there way to tell a good customer what time they get off... but body language and tone of voice speak for itself too

easier said than done obviously but if you're interested too, next time she's telling you what time she gets off (you can even ask casually by saying somethin like "you off again at 9?" - indicating that you remembered your guys conversation), just ask her casually if she wants to grab some coffee or somethin whenever she gets off

i'm the type that says go for it or else you're always going to be curious about "what if".. also the longer you wait the weirder it might get.. just go for it =) just do it casually so that you can still shop there lol.. doesn't have to be so direct

bmwracer wrote:^ If you misinterpret her kindness for something else and make a move and it fails, you'll never be able to show your face at that supermarket again. :sweat:

Not really. He doesnt have to be totally obvious about it.
And so what if she turns him down?
Life is trial and error.
If you dont try you sure wont end up with anything. :beaten:

Aya_Man_1988 wrote:
Well, I have to mention that she asked talked to me before...
In the end, she asked me where I worked, but I didn't hear her because I was already gone. Next time I showed my face, she mentioned that one fact, and asked it again. In the end she wished me a nice weekend and I wished her the same. At that moment she told me she wouldn't be done for the next day, 9.00 pm.

Would this count as 'she's interested in me?'

Maybe she needs to hit you in the head to get you to notice her. :beatyou: ;)

Havent you complained in this thread before about a lack of ladies? I dont think she can be much less obvious.

Aya_Man_1988,
You're overthinking it; you're falling into the trap of seeking emotion that's not there. She wouldn't be conversing with you at all if she was repulsed. If you concern yourself with anything more than that, you'll end up going into a high school "crush" mode. She asked you where you worked and told you when she'll be off. Casually suggest you two should meet up for drinks after she's off. If she says "yes", then great. If "no" that's okay too. Oh, and is she hot? :hehe:

Kijinnmaru wrote: If she says "yes", then great. If "no" that's okay too. Oh, and is she hot? :hehe:

Sage words. :victory:

I assume she's hot or she wouldnt be mentioned.



@Ayaman~ HAve you bitten the bullet yet and asked her to meet you?

bmwracer wrote:^ If you misinterpret her kindness for something else and make a move and it fails, you'll never be able to show your face at that supermarket again. :sweat:

I think that's being overly dramatic and negative. Faint heart never fair lady won. If we were all timid, then the human race would never top 6 billion souls. :)

Eve wrote:

Maybe she needs to hit you in the head to get you to notice her. :beatyou: ;)

Most women should and most women won't. :banghead:

Itazura ichiban wrote:I think that's being overly dramatic and negative.

Hey, I'm just playing devil's advocate....

Eve wrote:

Sage words. :victory:

I assume she's hot or she wouldnt be mentioned.



@Ayaman~ HAve you bitten the bullet yet and asked her to meet you?

I have not. She will work again, today.
I might even be inclined to ask her.

Problem is, I've never been on a 'date' before...

Aya_Man_1988 wrote:

Problem is, I've never been on a 'date' before...

Firstly, I dont see that as a problem.

And..... if you chicken out you still wont have.

Obviously it isnt how attractive you are that puts the ladies off.
Its that you are wishy-washy. Sorry but thats how I see it.

Cluck, cluck, cluck........... :shakehead:

Aya_Man_1988,
Once again I'm going to be harsh here for your benefit. You make excuses for everything; that's why you've never been on a date. You nitpick hints trying to interpret emotion from it where there isn't any. And you likely look at any potential "date" as a potential relationship. Look at yourself in the mirror honestly and tell me if I'm on the money. This is the newbie mistake. Attempting to rationalize every minutae means you'll only find reasons not to proceed.

If you find her attractive, ASK HER OUT. Don't think about potential anything; think about enjoying YOURSELVES; yes it's about the two of you. As superficial as it sounds, enter this with a mentality of a "one-night stand"(note:this doesn't mean you have to have sex). If it doesn't "click" by the end of the night, drop it and move along. If something does "click", THEN you explore it, IF YOU WANT TO.

Once again, I'm kicking you in the nuts for a reason, and not to be a jerk. You are in a "high school crushing" mentality that doesn't really work, not even in high school. Become an Alpha Male!