5 Steps to Disaster-Proof Your Dating
By Kathryn Lord Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Jan 24, 2008
Bad Date
If you want a dating life that's free from disaster, you need to invest in a little insurance. As hurricane victims know, it does no good to buy insurance after the storm has wreaked its damage. Here's how to get your own dating insurance package together:
1. Be ready.
Some folks approach life as if they were jumping into a cold swimming pool: They squeeze their eyes shut, hold their nose and jump. Who knows if they know how to swim?
It's far better to go into dating with your eyes open and your senses sharp. Take some time and review your current situation. What needs attention? Your physical self? Your surroundings? Your fears? Taking care of yourself first will help ensure your future success in love.
2. Get a life.
Nothing is more unattractive than someone with nothing to offer. While having space in your life for a partner is important, too much space will seem overwhelming to another. It's not up to a future partner to give you the life you haven't made for yourself. Get out and get active! One of the best strategies for getting invitations is to give them. Try entertaining. If the thought of throwing a party scares you more than dating, you can invite people to all kinds of events as your guest. (But you might as well get your domicile ready for visitors. Where do you expect to entertain a sweetie?)
3. Enhance your good luck.
Many singles are so discouraged about the process of finding love that they can't help but feel unlucky. And most folks feel that there is little they can do to influence Lady Luck.
But research has found that is not so. What you think and do has enormous effects on bringing you good -- or bad -- luck. Taking steps to increase your luck will help you find the best of the best. Listen to your lucky hunches. Maximize chance opportunities by varying your routine. Above all, expect good fortune in your life. What have you got to lose? More bad luck?
4. Be prepared to tell the hard stuff.
Often singles are so worried about how to tell bad news to a new partner that it gets in the way of doing any dating at all. We all have pasts, and none of us gets much beyond the age of 21 without accumulating a bit of baggage that we are not so proud of.
Part of getting ready to date is dealing with your truth and coming to terms with your life so far -- and what you have learned in the process. Tell the hard stuff now, before you are put on spot.
5. Toughen up.
Do you want to avoid rejection entirely? Well, you'd better stay off dating sites, because rejection is the name of the game. Because you are jumping into a very large pool of potential candidates, you will be saying "no" to many perfectly nice people, and they will be saying (or acting) "no" to you. Saying and getting "no's" is part of getting to that big "YES!" If the no's are too much for you, you are in big trouble right now.
By Kathryn Lord Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Jan 24, 2008
Bad Date
If you want a dating life that's free from disaster, you need to invest in a little insurance. As hurricane victims know, it does no good to buy insurance after the storm has wreaked its damage. Here's how to get your own dating insurance package together:
1. Be ready.
Some folks approach life as if they were jumping into a cold swimming pool: They squeeze their eyes shut, hold their nose and jump. Who knows if they know how to swim?
It's far better to go into dating with your eyes open and your senses sharp. Take some time and review your current situation. What needs attention? Your physical self? Your surroundings? Your fears? Taking care of yourself first will help ensure your future success in love.
2. Get a life.
Nothing is more unattractive than someone with nothing to offer. While having space in your life for a partner is important, too much space will seem overwhelming to another. It's not up to a future partner to give you the life you haven't made for yourself. Get out and get active! One of the best strategies for getting invitations is to give them. Try entertaining. If the thought of throwing a party scares you more than dating, you can invite people to all kinds of events as your guest. (But you might as well get your domicile ready for visitors. Where do you expect to entertain a sweetie?)
3. Enhance your good luck.
Many singles are so discouraged about the process of finding love that they can't help but feel unlucky. And most folks feel that there is little they can do to influence Lady Luck.
But research has found that is not so. What you think and do has enormous effects on bringing you good -- or bad -- luck. Taking steps to increase your luck will help you find the best of the best. Listen to your lucky hunches. Maximize chance opportunities by varying your routine. Above all, expect good fortune in your life. What have you got to lose? More bad luck?
4. Be prepared to tell the hard stuff.
Often singles are so worried about how to tell bad news to a new partner that it gets in the way of doing any dating at all. We all have pasts, and none of us gets much beyond the age of 21 without accumulating a bit of baggage that we are not so proud of.
Part of getting ready to date is dealing with your truth and coming to terms with your life so far -- and what you have learned in the process. Tell the hard stuff now, before you are put on spot.
5. Toughen up.
Do you want to avoid rejection entirely? Well, you'd better stay off dating sites, because rejection is the name of the game. Because you are jumping into a very large pool of potential candidates, you will be saying "no" to many perfectly nice people, and they will be saying (or acting) "no" to you. Saying and getting "no's" is part of getting to that big "YES!" If the no's are too much for you, you are in big trouble right now.
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