Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice

ScrappedShinigami wrote:So today I stopped being single :woot: I came here for advice, as I was worried about the whole friendship thing being ruined, but he told me he liked me first so it all worked out wah! Just wanted to let you guys know, cos I'm happy haha and I did say I'd return to say how it turns out :P

Now just gotta keep it together yosh! *strikes a pose*

yokatta it turned out well!! omedato and you are so brave!! I'm happy for you :dancing: :dancing: :dancing:

ScrappedShinigami wrote:XDDD thanks guys, sad as it is I haven't been in a proper relationship before, so I don't wanna mess it up >< (one off dates don't really help in this situation ^^; lol)
Yay :victory:

Since he liked you first youre off to a great start! :thumbsup:

Remember most people just want to be listened too and cared about.
Thats the bonus of being in a relationship.

Good luck!! And have fun!!
:mrgreen: :mrgreen:

Bride dies during marriage's first dance

Sat Feb 9, 7:04 PM ET

Kim Sjostrom wanted a real-life version of the film "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," which played in the background as friends fixed her hair and makeup before her own marriage ceremony.

But less than an hour after she and Teddy Efkarpides were wed, Sjostrom crumpled in her husband's arms during a Greek song that means "Love Me."

At 36, Sjostrom was dead from heart disease.

The wedding had became a project at Davie Elementary School, where Sjostrom taught first grade. Fellow teachers provided the wedding gown, the flowers and decorations. One of them, an ordained minister, performed the ceremony.

"It was perfect for her," said Dominic Church, the minister friend.

Sjostrom carried blue and white flowers during the ceremony \ the colors of the Greek flag \ as she exchanged vows with Efkarpides, a 43-year-old carpenter and Navy veteran. They had met three years to the day before the Jan. 19 wedding.

During the couple's first dance, Sjostrom complained of being lightheaded. Efkarpides thought his wife, a diabetic, needed sugar, but she collapsed.

Wedding guests, paramedics and doctors at a nearby hospital were unable to revive her.

She had a previous cardiac episode in her 20s and was a poster child \ literally \ for juvenile diabetes, relatives and friends said. Efkarpides recalled seeing the poster featuring her on New York subways.

He consoles himself by reading a list of "101 Reasons Why I Love You" that Sjostrom gave him their first Christmas together. "Number 1. You make me smile."

No. 98 is especially difficult: "You're the one I want to grow old with."

bmwracer wrote:Bride dies during marriage's first dance

Sat Feb 9, 7:04 PM ET

Kim Sjostrom wanted a real-life version of the film "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," which played in the background as friends fixed her hair and makeup before her own marriage ceremony.

But less than an hour after she and Teddy Efkarpides were wed, Sjostrom crumpled in her husband's arms during a Greek song that means "Love Me."

At 36, Sjostrom was dead from heart disease.

The wedding had became a project at Davie Elementary School, where Sjostrom taught first grade. Fellow teachers provided the wedding gown, the flowers and decorations. One of them, an ordained minister, performed the ceremony.

"It was perfect for her," said Dominic Church, the minister friend.

Sjostrom carried blue and white flowers during the ceremony \ the colors of the Greek flag \ as she exchanged vows with Efkarpides, a 43-year-old carpenter and Navy veteran. They had met three years to the day before the Jan. 19 wedding.

During the couple's first dance, Sjostrom complained of being lightheaded. Efkarpides thought his wife, a diabetic, needed sugar, but she collapsed.

Wedding guests, paramedics and doctors at a nearby hospital were unable to revive her.

She had a previous cardiac episode in her 20s and was a poster child \ literally \ for juvenile diabetes, relatives and friends said. Efkarpides recalled seeing the poster featuring her on New York subways.

He consoles himself by reading a list of "101 Reasons Why I Love You" that Sjostrom gave him their first Christmas together. "Number 1. You make me smile."

No. 98 is especially difficult: "You're the one I want to grow old with."

O no. :pout:

Wynter wrote:O no. :pout:

Once again, fact is stranger than fiction. :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
Once again, fact is stranger than fiction. :sweat:

Yea. That's a real upsetting piece of news. Poor groom.

On a completely random and somewhat insensitive note, I'm slightly amused that the minister's surname is "Church".

bmwracer wrote:Bride dies during marriage's first dance

Sat Feb 9, 7:04 PM ET

Kim Sjostrom wanted a real-life version of the film "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," which played in the background as friends fixed her hair and makeup before her own marriage ceremony.

But less than an hour after she and Teddy Efkarpides were wed, Sjostrom crumpled in her husband's arms during a Greek song that means "Love Me."

At 36, Sjostrom was dead from heart disease.

The wedding had became a project at Davie Elementary School, where Sjostrom taught first grade. Fellow teachers provided the wedding gown, the flowers and decorations. One of them, an ordained minister, performed the ceremony.

"It was perfect for her," said Dominic Church, the minister friend.

Sjostrom carried blue and white flowers during the ceremony \ the colors of the Greek flag \ as she exchanged vows with Efkarpides, a 43-year-old carpenter and Navy veteran. They had met three years to the day before the Jan. 19 wedding.

During the couple's first dance, Sjostrom complained of being lightheaded. Efkarpides thought his wife, a diabetic, needed sugar, but she collapsed.

Wedding guests, paramedics and doctors at a nearby hospital were unable to revive her.

She had a previous cardiac episode in her 20s and was a poster child \ literally \ for juvenile diabetes, relatives and friends said. Efkarpides recalled seeing the poster featuring her on New York subways.

He consoles himself by reading a list of "101 Reasons Why I Love You" that Sjostrom gave him their first Christmas together. "Number 1. You make me smile."

No. 98 is especially difficult: "You're the one I want to grow old with."

Very very unfortunate.

Yet another reason why I will never get married again.

No more commitments and no more vulneralbilites for me.

ahochaude wrote:Yet another reason why I will never get married again.

No more commitments and no more vulneralbilites for me.

Never say never... That always tempts fate. :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
Never say never... That always tempts fate. :sweat:

perhaps for some, marriage is just not possible....but i'd say that most are or atleast yearn to hook up, get hitched, or find their soul mate.

I fall into the category of wanting to get married. Perhaps it is part idealistic, and part observation on my part, but what a healthy marriage has is two healthy consenting adults working at it together ever evolving. Now, this all based only on my observations, perceptions and my ideal of what a marriage involves, and just some of the sacrifices they put up with.

I can only speak on behalf of a single person, and the jungles of dating. Sure the freedom of what being single brings is ultimate selfishness, freedom, but at a cost. A cost to some what is believed to be a lack of companionship in an intimate way. For some, it is not a bother, and they have their family and friends to fill themselves up with laughter, happiness, even sadness. But there will always be that "romantic" partner companionship they in some way would crave, seek, and yearn for. It is all in us. For those who share my views of singleness, the day of that "constant reminder" of LOVE is just around the corner, and for those lucky that can celebrate it with their significant other. I can't help to think those sarcastic, dark humor when it pertains to this rosy sort of feeling of bliss, and being in love and this notion of forever being in love with that person, i'd say wake up to reality, and share the pain of being broken up, or atleast frustratingly searching for someone. Love takes time, yeah we hear it before, and this so-called jungle of dating, pursuing thru the awkwardness of dating new people and figuring out what the hell they want, and you want, only to be thrown back into the back of the line, drawing board. For me, Valentines Day is just another day, and it is a celebration of those, that can cherish it and be blessed that this year, they have someone special. Whether married or single, or whatever you call it between stage, i think it is more important to find some happiness as an individual and with the other person.

^ I always love your insightful and deep posts in this thread, q-chan. :) I'm just so amazed that a guy actually wrote this because it voices a lot of what I want to say and how I feel. And yeah, V-day is in a couple of days. To this single person, it's a great time for discount candy. :victory: Not that I'll be buying any since I am trying to cut back on the sweets. :sweat:

cori wrote: I am trying to cut back on the sweets. :sweat:

Good luck with that, cori-chan :)

I'm not getting Mrs A.D. chocolates. She's dieting :hehe:

cori wrote:^ I always love your insightful and deep posts in this thread, q-chan. :) I'm just so amazed that a guy actually wrote this because it voices a lot of what I want to say and how I feel. And yeah, V-day is in a couple of days. To this single person, it's a great time for discount candy. :victory: Not that I'll be buying any since I am trying to cut back on the sweets. :sweat:

what, men can't have emotional depth? :beaten:

kitakaze wrote:

what, men can't have emotional depth? :beaten:

Sure they can, but I've never really known any man who writes out his thoughts as eloquently as q-chan does. :)

cori wrote:Not that I'll be buying any since I am trying to cut back on the sweets. :sweat:

Gomen, but I've heard that before. :beaten:

cori wrote:

Sure they can, but I've never really known any man who writes out his thoughts as eloquently as q-chan does. :)

:bonk: thanks....
i suppose when all the junk is flowing out, it just flows out in words..

honestly on the topic of dating, relationshps, i can wrote a novel of all the stuff, ideas, thoughts in my head,...the novel wouldn't be very organized as i am not a writer, but the words would bolt out of my mind.

cori wrote:Sure they can, but I've never really known any man who writes out his thoughts as eloquently as q-chan does. :)

Q's got a silver tongue...













No dirty jokes, now.

bmwracer wrote:
Q's got a silver tongue...













No dirty jokes, now.

That's another way to a womans heart. :beaten:

kitakaze wrote:That's another way to a womans heart. :beaten:

Through her.........? :rolleyes:

kitakaze wrote:

That's another way to a womans heart. :beaten:

besides being the gentleman, holding doors, flowers for her, and being respectful. This is without question.


for the guys, how far do you go, not in terms of "sex", but this is in terms of the actual pursuing, whether it be via text,phone, IM'ing, yea know contacting. I'd say as far as she is willing to give you some sort of receptivity, some response of an interest, which is the fuel for the act of pursuit. Unless the guy is in an over his head trying to "WIN" her over big time, if she doesn't reciprocate back after his contacts, i'd say it might not be worth it to him any more. I'd say each case scenario is quite different. I personally don't believe in games, and being direct in communication is best, if there is some comfort level, some connection where she and i can talk things out, if she is willing to give me time.

bmwracer wrote:
Through her.........? :rolleyes:

Maybe. I've never been that good with words personally :beaten:

Being able to talk to a woman directly helps. But it's never that easy.