Japanese Girl/Boyfriends - Dating in Japan

Ushiroyubi wrote:

interesting. I didn't know you meant literally...

How have others of your ethnic background treated you once they know of your parents?

Sorry...I don't understand your confusion. Maybe a pic of myself will help:

I've posted a few in this thread:

http://jdorama.com/viewtopic.php?p=130543#130543

gregsan wrote:

Sorry...I don't understand your confusion. Maybe a pic of myself will help:

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That's me in Kyoto - 1998.

EH.... oh... so you're NOT Asian.

My confusion came with this statment:

gregsan wrote:

Similar to me..though I'm Asian (raised white)

I'm kind of Asian confused though, since I'm partial to Japanese, but then again....I married a Chinese (Cantonese) girl. Very confused... :shakehead:

So you're an asianphile who believe he was born into the wrong body?

Ushiroyubi wrote:

So you're an asianphile who believe he was born into the wrong body?

Yeah... I was confused by your earlier statement Greg... you wrote that you were Asian and didn't you write that you also married a Chinese girl (that speaks Canto)?

Some folks believe that the stork makes mistakes every once in a while and misdelivers babies. And I wouldn't call it that the person in question is a *insert-ethnic-interest-type-here*-phile. It's more like the person has a fundamentally different psychological makeup that is more similar to the ethnic group that they are intersted in, instead of the ethnic group to which they are genetically related.



Whatever makes folks happy, :)
PCM

pcmodem wrote:


Some folks believe that the stork makes mistakes every once in a while and misdelivers babies. And I wouldn't call it that the person in question is a *insert-ethnic-interest-type-here*-phile. It's more like the person has a fundamentally different psychological makeup that is more similar to the ethnic group that they are intersted in, instead of the ethnic group to which they are genetically related.

thus, said person is enamored with "asian things" for the fact that they're asian... rather than being simply "asiancentric" and believing that there are great things within asian-cultures that you value.

It isn't a "cultural issue" per se, because there is, in reality, no such thing as "asian culture".

Ushiroyubi wrote:
My confusion came with this statment:

gregsan wrote:
Similar to me..though I'm Asian (raised white)

I'm kind of Asian confused though, since I'm partial to Japanese, but then again....I married a Chinese (Cantonese) girl. Very confused...

which was written in response to this post:

bmwracer wrote:
I think I was born Japanese and whisked away by a Chinese couple... :hehe:

Ushiroyubi wrote:

thus, said person is enamored with "asian things" for the fact that they're asian... rather than being simply "asiancentric" and believing that there are great things within asian-cultures that you value.

I don't think "enamored" is a the correct word.

gregsan wrote:which was written in response to this post:

Yes, but your use of "though I am Asian" threw me, and apparently, others for a loop.

gregsan wrote:

I don't think "enamored" is a the correct word.

ok then... it doesn't have to do with love.

Passionately obsessed?

Ushiroyubi wrote:

Yes, but your use of "though I am Asian" threw me, and apparently, others for a loop.

I will guess MOST people were NOT confused...and the "though" was more a contrast of White to Chinese (NOT Asian to Japanese).

I said I was BORN to white parents...how LESS confusing could I be?

Ushiroyubi wrote:

ok then... it doesn't have to do with love.

Passionately obsessed?

Are you and Asian? If so...are you "passionately obsessed"? Is that what defines you to be asian?

gregsan wrote:

Are you and Asian? If so...are you "passionately obsessed"? Is that what defines you to be asian?

I am only part Asian... and undeniably "japancentric".

But I do not believe to be "asian confused" as I do not put value on continental significance as a whole... only elements within various cultures (many of which happen to be asian) that I believe to be dear to me.

gregsan wrote:

I will guess MOST people were NOT confused...and the "though" was more a contrast of White to Chinese (NOT Asian to Japanese).

I said I was BORN to white parents...how LESS confusing could I be?

I needed that third post in order to confirm the truth (as it's clear now) because the first two statements cancelled each other out.

So we're done with that.

Ushiroyubi wrote:

I am only part Asian... and undeniably "japancentric".

But I do not believe to be "asian confused" as I do not put value on continental significance as a whole... only elements within various cultures (many of which happen to be asian) that I believe to be dear to me.

OK.. Japancentric or Asiancentric will do. Though my point is I'm semi-Japancentric, semi-chinese(HK)centric...

This thread is uh....something else :sweat: :hehe: Why Japanese though? I think when looking hard for something specific like that, you may not find exactly what you'd hope for :P

I say a lot that I want some Asian guy(s) for the time being (b/c I never had one :doh:) but heh, I highly doubt I'd turn down a nice hottie who isn't Asian though. :notell: :woot:

gregsan wrote:

OK.. Japancentric or Asiancentric will do. Though my point is I'm semi-Japancentric, semi-chinese(HK)centric...

I'm "-centric" to countries that have beautiful women (and have brains and personality to match) and don't smell.

I'm married but there was a time where I was on a search in different countries for women resembling Sammi Cheng, Faye Wong, women with similar eyes and beauty of Maggie Cheung and Bada, Hyori and for Japanese women... I digged Ako of My Little Lover and Moritaka Chisato (when she had the long black hair). But it's not limited to Asian women. I was always on the lookout for a Claudia Schiffer, Karen Mulder, Tatiana Patitz, Nicole Kidman.... I just love beautiful women.

kndy

kndy-nt2099 wrote:

..and don't smell.

kndy

BWAHAHAHAHA, definitely an important quality :rofl: :rolly:

kndy-nt2099 wrote:

I'm "-centric" to countries that have beautiful women (and have brains and personality to match) and don't smell.

ehh... somehow I believe the conversation drifted a bit further off from just limiting -centricisms to "your ideal mate".

I know Afghanistan has some beautiful women (I dated one in college)... but you won't find me being too "up" on their country. lol

i dont care..i just want to marry japanese guy....i wnat i want i want....... :metaldevil:

day_o00 wrote:i dont care..i just want to marry japanese guy....i wnat i want i want....... :metaldevil:

Damn you're picky.

day_o00 wrote:i dont care..i just want to marry japanese guy....i wnat i want i want....... :metaldevil:

The japanese has to say YES :D

I didn"t see your pic, I don't want to read all :)

Xavio wrote:The japanese has to say YES :D

I didn"t see your pic, I don't want to read all :)

i'm just guessing now, but i think the pic is the avatar...