thanks for clearing that out for me... I'm suprised that it happens in many countries, because I've never encountered it before. In my country (Netherlands) I think you would've been "accused" of being gay very quickly. At least it doesn't seem to be a common habit.
But ehm.. how far does this kind of friendship intimacy go? Just to be sure... for example if two straight male friends would give eachother a goodbye kiss I would be hugely shocked :shocked: Don't get a wrong impression, people being gay is fine with me.... :victory: But you know, I have some sort of definition of what is gay and what not, based on the general idea that goes in my country. You'll need to help me adapt to other cultures' views on this I guess.. :sweat:
it's a shame, but in some ways, i thought the netherlands (and europe, in general), would be different. i don't think the avg american male would think too differently from you.
if i saw two guys kiss on the lips, i assume they're gay. that's that.
if i saw two guys kiss on the cheeks (and i mean the ones on your face) and they're european-looking, i assume they're from a country where that is a custom. if i were to ever visit that country, i'd participate in that custom - although i'm sure there'd be a feeling of uneasiness. (the kiss-on-the-lips custom? hell no.)
the other stuff, well, here's some jholic personal observations:
butt-pat: as mentioned before, if it's done with one hand, no cupping, it's fine. try to limit yourself to one or two pats, and don't get too carried away. if it's done with TWO hands, that's a no-no.
the hug: in certain situations, the male-male hug is fine. the most common one you'll see is two males lock a handshake FIRST, then (with hands still between them) give each other a small hug and pat on the back. instances where the emotions may run high, a chest-to-chest manly bear hug with both arms around the other person is still acceptable. both arms and BOTH LEGS around the other person? a no-no.
superfuzzy3 wrote:
in respose to the original post i say it's fine as long there is some reciprocity. If you wanna check out cute guys let your husband check out hot women, and then everyone's happy.
-g out
I wanna check out the cute guys!!! (But he won't check out the "hot" women - because if he did, I'd be happy!)
But if you really can't help yourself when he's around, don't make any quick sudden movements, and only wear mirrored sunglasses so he can't tell what direction your eyes are going! :woot:
Yeah - He's on to my tricks!! :nut: And that was one of them.
Mikiko wrote:Is it really all that bad that when a (hunkalicious) gorgeous Japanese (or Asian) guy walks by and my husband catches me do a double (sometimes, triple) take?
Or that everytime I log on and see Hideaki Takizawa, I want to spontaneously combust?
(Not my fault God make Japanese guys so hot!)
-Sorry, if these upsets anyone, not trying to offend-
Mikiko
No, because if I see a hot woman, I'm sure my wife catches me doing a double or triple take. But I usually comment like "damn, that girl has a nice ass" or "damn, that girl has some big..." and then she'll punch me hard in the arm.
kndy-nt2099 wrote:
No, because if I see a hot woman, I'm sure my wife catches me doing a double or triple take. But I usually comment like "damn, that girl has a nice ass" or "damn, that girl has some big..." and then she'll punch me hard in the arm.
kndy
With respect to the second quote "damn, that girl has some big...", I'd take a slender, yet flat, woman like Kelly Chen, Sammi Cheng, Miriam Yeung, or Joey Yung, any day of the week instead.
It's the entire package (brains, beauty, personality, character...)! :naughty:
-PCM
there are two brothers, that i know, and love,(its the wayans brothers!) and they kiss on the lips sometimes!
i think thas so sweet.
i kiss my sisters on the lips, and only occassionally my brothers, (bcs i know that their girlfriends are skeezers, and i dont want those dirty lips near me) :sweat:
i wonder if in other countries brothers kiss on the lips, i know my brothers dont...but my sisters do....thas wierd.
TANG wrote:there are two brothers, that i know, and love,(its the wayans brothers!) and they kiss on the lips sometimes!
i think thas so sweet.
i kiss my sisters on the lips, and only occassionally my brothers, (bcs i know that their girlfriends are skeezers, and i dont want those dirty lips near me) :sweat:
Reminds me of Angelina Jolie when she kissed her brother on the lips.