Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice

kisarazu wrote:hmm.. i'm getting intirgued :mrgreen: tell me more about her.. maybe we can find out a way to tell her so .. you're feelings I mean :dancing:

I would rather clear a minefield with a toothbrush than telling her and risk being shot down :P

Takekaze wrote:
I would rather clear a minefield with a toothbrush than telling her and risk being shot down :P

oh... so you're afraid of being rejected.. ne??

Takekaze wrote:
I would rather clear a minefield with a toothbrush than telling her and risk being shot down :P

Nothing ventured nothing gained. ;)

Eve wrote:Nothing ventured nothing gained. ;)

I know that phrase all too well. :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
I know that phrase all too well. :sweat:

yeah.. we need to take risks!!

Eve wrote:

Nothing ventured nothing gained. ;)

The status quo is just fine. It's not perfect, but it could be a lot worse.

Takekaze wrote:
The status quo is just fine. It's not perfect, but it could be a lot worse.

Well I sat down and said hi to a man two years ago and we are in love still and celebrating our 2nd Christmas together. :smitten:

Eve wrote:

Well I sat down and said hi to a man two years ago and we are in love still and celebrating our 2nd Christmas together. :smitten:

:applaud: Hooray!

Takekaze wrote:
:applaud: Hooray!

Thanx. But if you never go for it you might miss out!
Good luck with whatever you decide!! :fingerscrossed:

Eve wrote:

Thanx. But if you never go for it you might miss out!
Good luck with whatever you decide!! :fingerscrossed:

See, I'll spend christmas with her :P Just, uhmm... I'd rather face the father of my ex in a duel without protectors and with bokken... than telling a certain someone about a certain something...

Takekaze wrote:
The status quo is just fine. It's not perfect, but it could be a lot worse.

That can open you up to whole lot of heartache down the road.

Kijinnmaru wrote:
That can open you up to whole lot of heartache down the road.

Oh, I know, but well... I rather not say that because it's so horribly cheesy. *insert manly grunt here*

Takekaze wrote:
Oh, I know, but well... I rather not say that because it's so horribly cheesy. *insert manly grunt here*

Human kind cannot gain anything without first giving somethign in return to obtain something with equal value must be lost..

kisarazu wrote:

Human kind cannot gain anything without first giving somethign in return to obtain something with equal value must be lost..

Now that is a truism.......

From Yahoo! Personals:

Top Five Dating Mistakes That Men Make

1. Men Show Off or Try to Impress Too Much.
Don't offer your resume, your earning potential, and tell us how you'll change our lives the first time we meet you. Instead of talking about yourself the whole night, ask questions! Don't come on too strong right away. Let us figure out if we want to be with you, instead of telling us we do.

2. Men Don't Listen to Us When We're Talking.
We notice if you stop listening to us, if you ask us questions we just answered, or if you keep interrupting us when we're opening up. This drives most women nuts! Unless you're on call, don't check your Blackberry at dinner and don't check out other women.
gFocus on the woman across the table from you and listen to what she has to say.h
Focus on the woman across the table from you and listen to what she has to say.

3. Men Aren't Chivalrous.
The lines here are not always clear. We want you to treat us like equals, but we also want you to treat us like women. It's nice when a man picks up the tab or makes sure his date gets home safely. It may be old-fashioned, but a number of women report that dating a gentleman matters.

4. Men Don't Take Initiative.
Men, how many times have you caught yourself saying, "I don't know" or "Whatever you'd like" when planning a date? If you've asked a woman out, a better approach is to give a few fun and creative date options and ask her to pick one.
Initiative doesn't mean ordering for a woman at a restaurant or ordering a woman around! It does mean confidently approaching your date with ideas, passion and interest. It also means you can be flirty and forward, letting her know how amazing you think she looks or how much you want to kiss her.

5. Men Say They'll Call and Then Don't.
It's no surprise that acting like you're going to follow up when you're not bothers most women (and never underestimate the way word travels about you not keeping your word!). Better to end a date by saying, "It was nice to meet you. Have a good night." Don't act like you're going to follow up if you're not. If you've gone out more than a few times, be honest that while you enjoy your date's company, you don't feel a romantic connection.
gJust remember, communication is usually the way to go with a woman.h
Just remember, communication is usually the way to go with a woman.

There are always exceptions, so I don't believe there are absolute rights and wrongs in dating -- but there are strategies. If you follow these simple steps, you'll be ahead in the dating game. At least you'll get an 'A' for effort.

bmwracer wrote:5. Men Say They'll Call and Then Don't.
It's no surprise that acting like you're going to follow up when you're not bothers most women (and never underestimate the way word travels about you not keeping your word!). Better to end a date by saying, "It was nice to meet you. Have a good night." Don't act like you're going to follow up if you're not. If you've gone out more than a few times, be honest that while you enjoy your date's company, you don't feel a romantic connection.

I hate when guys do this. If you're not interested, don't give me false hope by telling me that you'll call later. It would be nice if they stop with all the bull$hit and just be honest that it's not working out. I'd appreciate that a lot more than wondering wtf is going on.

cori wrote:I hate when guys do this. If you're not interested, don't give me false hope by telling me that you'll call later. It would be nice if they stop with all the bull$hit and just be honest that it's not working out. I'd appreciate that a lot more than wondering wtf is going on.

Or maybe the guy lost your number... :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
Or maybe the guy lost your number... :sweat:

Unless he lost his cellphone, which should have my damn number in it since he called me numerous times before, then I'd understand. Well, it's been a few months so I don't really care anymore; I just got a bit worked up when I saw that article. :beaten:

bmwracer wrote:From Yahoo! Personals:

Top Five Dating Mistakes That Men Make

They forgot #6: From the movie Bull Durham when Tim Robbins is sitting on the sofa with Susan Sarandon and asks, "So, are we gonna f**k or what?" Something tells me this is not the best way to break the ice. [/list:u]

cori wrote:I just got a bit worked up when I saw that article. :beaten:

Gomen. :sweat: