Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice

Anime Dad wrote:

Well, yes and no. I guess it works for you, but I was never that popular with the girls :shamefulcry:

Sounds like you were one of the lucky ones who found their match without having to go through the hassle of dating around a lot. :)

cori wrote:

Sounds like you were one of the lucky ones who found their match without having to go through the hassle of dating around a lot. :)

Actually, we knew each other since we were about 12. :sweat: But had no interest until much later :)

Anime Dad wrote:

Actually, we knew each other since we were about 12. :sweat: But had no interest until much later :)

That's so cute! :D And it reminds me of a Korean drama...no wait, scratch that...MOST of the Korean dramas that I have seen. :mrgreen:

That IS cute! :smitten:

I always wished I'd grown up with a boy my age and that we coulda fallen in love and married.

Wynter wrote:That IS cute! :smitten:

I always wished I'd grown up with a boy my age and that we coulda fallen in love and married.

Stop complaining...Vlad's only 400 years older than you.

Wynter wrote:That IS cute! :smitten:

I always wished I'd grown up with a boy my age and that we coulda fallen in love and married.

Mrs A.D. was best friend of the daughter of friends of my family, so we would see each other regularly. It was NOT love at first sight, though ;)

Wynter wrote:That IS cute! :smitten:

I always wished I'd grown up with a boy my age and that we coulda fallen in love and married.

Me too! But at that early age, all boys had cooties. Or was it the girls? :crazy: :hehe:

cori wrote:

Me too! But at that early age, all boys had cooties. Or was it the girls? :crazy: :hehe:

No, the girls had girls' germs. :hehe:

Tu_triky wrote:

Stop complaining...Vlad's only 400 years older than you.

551 years older. :muack: :muack:

ahochaude wrote:^ (all posts above)

I take it 'as is'. I will play a girl when she's a dumb little tramp who doesn't know $%*@, but makes like she is trying to play me. Or, if the girl flocks to me and we agree that s*x with 'no strings attached' is what we want. --That is the only time that I 'play'.

After being through a marriage, I am slow to 'commit'. I will date several to MANY girls at the same time. I advise to ALL of them that the relationship is not 'official', however in the 'beginning/trial' stage. If a girl disregards what I tell them in the beginning and blames me for 'playing' them when I'm seeing someone else, then I consider it her fault rather than mine. Because I told her from the start that she is not the only girl I am seeing. If they're cool with that, then we continue. However if not, I cut them off right there.

I make this statement and expose myself (and others like me) only because people like us who see multiple women at the same time are considered by some as 'players', 'busters', 'player wannabes', 'assholes', and even 'losers', which is not necessarily true.

-It's like picking apples from a tree and choosing the best one (for you) during the process. Make sense?!

whatever floats your boat dude and whatever works for you...i must not have the skills to play that game. if you look at it, honestly, you are single and you are not tied down where you would have to look after your own shoulder, you are a free man....sorta. So, to each his own, and the woman knows your intentions and where you stand...then fair enough.
play the field, get what you want, and everyone is happy. I don't get this dating scene at all, and i come to realize that anything is better than nothing. It is a f*cking jungle out there trying to figure out what people want and how to get back in the game. Maybe i just need a bigger better basket when choosing my apples. LOL

in theory i know what to do, and what this dating game is all about, but really i have no damn idea how this works..what is commitment?, telling people what they want to hear?! or saying what you feel even if it makes you seem like a dumbshit....
and if you really analyze and think about it, people seem more comfortable with a mongamous type environment when you focus on one, but if it doesn't work, next...but at the same time, isn't it a numbers game too, why does it seem to look bad when a person is dating muliple partners simultaneously? ok having sex with all of them in the same week might seem weird, but the concept is there....its a numbers game, and selection of the fittest, or whatever that term is...i have no damn clue.

qilver wrote:whatever floats your boat dude and whatever works for you...i must not have the skills to play that game. if you look at it, honestly, you are single and you are not tied down where you would have to look after your own shoulder, you are a free man....sorta. So, to each his own, and the woman knows your intentions and where you stand...then fair enough.

first of all, I DO whatever "floats my boat"! :hehe: -I've learned to do so through the trials and trivilations of the game called 'dating', or what some may consider, 'love'.
Mind you that I am NOT a free man. In no way, shape or form. I have responsibilities. A (still legally on paper) wife and two kids. Who, mind you, do not live in this country (USA) anymore. (Wife just didn't see a life with me in the US, and went back to Japan)
So anyway, women with whom I meet with now, I disclose what my intentions (and situations are). So, unlike many other 'players', I do not leave the women in which I am per se, 'serious' in left in the dark. How do I meet them? I don't know, I just meet them at random places. I don't pick them up (always) intentionally. It just happens. :beaten:

qilver wrote:play the field, get what you want, and everyone is happy. I don't get this dating scene at all, and i come to realize that anything is better than nothing. It is a f*cking jungle out there trying to figure out what people want and how to get back in the game. Maybe i just need a bigger better basket when choosing my apples. LOL

It IS a "jungle" out there. Keep in mind that this is the 2000's, and is nothing like what we grew up seeing and thinking was what was "right". :beaten:
Times and things change, and unfortunately the times we live in now, is based on money, status, good looks, and essentially, "game".

qilver wrote:in theory i know what to do, and what this dating game is all about, but really i have no damn idea how this works..what is commitment?, telling people what they want to hear?! or saying what you feel even if it makes you seem like a dumbshit....
and if you really analyze and think about it, people seem more comfortable with a mongamous type environment when you focus on one, but if it doesn't work, next...but at the same time, isn't it a numbers game too, why does it seem to look bad when a person is dating muliple partners simultaneously? ok having sex with all of them in the same week might seem weird, but the concept is there....its a numbers game, and selection of the fittest, or whatever that term is...i have no damn clue.

All about the "game" and current 'trends' and 'culture'. Sad to say.
But don't get me wrong. Not everyone is "corrupted". There are your people who believe in the normal and traditional dating scene.
Just hard finding them. :beaten:

in terms of dating, i feel that despite in my age of 36...i am always a student of life and especially in terms of "dating", and the so-called, "game". i clearly have no idea what it involves despite having nearly 10 yrs of dating experience in my life. I often wonder why it seems so hard to find "someone", perhaps i am trying too hard or not in the right places, or the timing is just off, or that have the wrong approach or wrong idea, theories. I just know i gotta try.

I feel i took one step back in my current situation, but in some way have move a few steps forward in other areas in my life. I am not sure if that will help my lack of dating, but it could bring me more confidence.

some people have the skill, and now where to find them, others are still searching...i guess i am still searching. as frustrating as it may seem, going with the flow seems the best idea, when there is absolutely no prospects and being stuck in the jungle of dating...

Need advices.

I only have a week left living like a single man. I trying to think of a few things I need to do, before it's too late. I already did a few things like not doing dishes for a while, farting while watching TV and drinking juice straight from the bottle, before putting it back in the fridge. :mrgreen:

I'm sure I still have a few things to do, that I won't be able to do with a girl around, unless I want her to run away or make me sleep on the couch for 6 months. :sweat:

If you have any ideas, of what I should do this week, feel free to post. Thank you. :victory:

tabana wrote:Need advices.

I only have a week left living like a single man. I trying to think of a few things I need to do, before it's too late. I already did a few things like not doing dishes for a while, farting while watching TV and drinking juice straight from the bottle, before putting it back in the fridge. :mrgreen:

I'm sure I still have a few things to do, that I won't be able to do with a girl around, unless I want her to run away or make me sleep on the couch for 6 months. :sweat:

If you have any ideas, of what I should do this week, feel free to post. Thank you. :victory:

Eh??

You getting hitched or something? :headscratch:

I would get in as much gaming, watching action movies and sports, and watching doramas as possible (assuming your new "roomie" doesn't like these things). Also leave as much dirty clothing lying around as possible ;)

bmwracer wrote:
Eh??

You getting hitched or something? :headscratch:

Almost. The girlfriend is moving in with me. I had to remove my idols calendar a while back, but still could do "man things", when she was not with me.

Anime Dad wrote:I would get in as much gaming, watching action movies and sports, and watching doramas as possible (assuming your new "roomie" doesn't like these things). Also leave as much dirty clothing lying around as possible ;)

Thank you! :D I'm kind of lucky with the dorama, but the gaming part isn't good. Oh, as well as the dirty clothing. :mrgreen:

tabana wrote:

bmwracer wrote:
Eh??

You getting hitched or something? :headscratch:

Almost. The girlfriend is moving in with me. I had to remove my idols calendar a while back, but still could do "man things", when she was not with me.

Was it your idea or hers?

I don't see why you should have to take down your idol calendar(s).... Is she that jealous?

Oh no. It was my idea. They were from 2007, so no need to keep them on the walls. She laugh at me when I picked up a free mag on the street. It turned out to be a salariman mag. The thing is filled with kyabakura ads, love hotels, massage parlor with soft hands... :sweat:

I don't know if she would like them, but I prefer to take them off. Just in case. :whipped:

tabana wrote:massage parlor with soft hands...

Those are the best kind. :mrgreen:

Yow, it's a big step in a relationship, I think.




Guess we won't be seeing much of you from now on. :beaten:

tabana wrote:Need advices.

I only have a week left living like a single man. I trying to think of a few things I need to do, before it's too late. I already did a few things like not doing dishes for a while, farting while watching TV and drinking juice straight from the bottle, before putting it back in the fridge. :mrgreen:

I'm sure I still have a few things to do, that I won't be able to do with a girl around, unless I want her to run away or make me sleep on the couch for 6 months. :sweat:

If you have any ideas, of what I should do this week, feel free to post. Thank you. :victory:

Congrats!! :mrgreen:

- Look at other girls - in fact look at every single girl in your town. When I am with my boyfriend, I want to be the centre of attention.

- Dress what you like - most girls hate the stuff their boyfriend is wearing and will change it as soon as an opportunity arises.

- Enjoy the silence - when your girlfriend moves in youLll have to have conversations all the time.

- Enjoy the calendars - they will have to go - not because of jealousy but for decoration reasons.

- Post as much as you can here! :victory:

Note: this doesnLt apply to all girls though. And girls fart too (but would rather die then admit this) and therefore are prepared to accept a farting boyfriend.