Yup, he seems to like it (and Juri's Nodame character). He's been meaning to watch it for a while, but never got around to it, so I'm making him watch it when I'm visiting him for the weekend. :)
sadacori wrote:Yup, he seems to like it (and Juri's Nodame character). He's been meaning to watch it for a while, but never got around to it, so I'm making him watch it when I'm visiting him for the weekend. :)
Are some people just destined to be single forever? Some people don't seem to have the communication skills for a long-term relationship, ever notice that?
Itazura ichiban wrote:Are some people just destined to be single forever? Some people don't seem to have the communication skills for a long-term relationship, ever notice that?
I am not passing judgment, just making a note.
I think it's more than communication skills that dictates whether someone can have a long term relationship.
And I don't think it's about the relationship when you get in it. It's about timing, and getting to the point where you can have a relationship. You can't be in a relationship without the initial meeting.
Itazura ichiban wrote:Are some people just destined to be single forever? Some people don't seem to have the communication skills for a long-term relationship, ever notice that?
I am not passing judgment, just making a note.
I'm going to just answer your first question even though that's probably not what you're really focusing on.
I think that this is the case for a lot of people I know. Not because of the communication skills, but because it's hard to find the right person to connect with. And even though you find a person that you feel that you can really connect with, it's still all about timing, mutual feelings, etc. Sometimes I feel like I'm in the "single forever" category, but sometimes there comes someone who makes me think otherwise. Relationships are just so confusing. Oops, was that a tangent?
I have never been in a relationship but i'm only 17..
However i'm wondering why some people can just get someone after another... I have a friend who I don't really talked to much since we both ended up going to diffrent schools. but thru high school she would always be in love and always told me he was mr.perfect then the next week they'd hate eachother and then she would always say no one likes her and then the next day she would have someone new. One time I had a huge crush on this guy in my class who I introduced her to and they ended up dating. I'm not mad anymore..I just wonder how certain people can always get someone and then some people just can't get anyone. o.o
Pretty much all of us have been raised with a certain expectation about love and relationships. Unfortunately, this is the fairy-tale "happily ever after" kind that I feel is the problem. How many here feel their life won't be complete unless they have someone to love and share it with? Destiny, love at first site, soulmate - all garbage in my opinion because they lull one into a complacency about a relationship. A relationship isn't an endstate; it's a continual work up until the very end. Every decision after the start of the relationship has an effect on both parties, so there is no longer an "I" anymore. This was the reason for my recent break-up. My decisions for my life had major consequences to hers, and although she was willing to accept it, it took its toll and I couldn't continue to do that to her. She deserved better and can now have it. My decision no longer effects her life, with the result being I likely won't ever love anyone anymore.
Love is a luxury. It's great to have, but you don't need it to live your life. Why has stories of true love and romance been popular for as long as humans have been telling tales? Because a relationship based on love has always been rare. Throughout the history of mandkind, relationships have always been about the advantages and benefits it would bring to both parties. A relationship based on love is a very recent incarnation. This is why I feel many relationships fail: it begins with unrealistic expectations and continues with a lack of insight on what's needed to be done. Stop trying to find a soulmate and just enjoy the company. If something develops from there, then start thinking about making it last.