Japanese Girl/Boyfriends - Dating in Japan

how many have had luck exchanging phone numbers?

SubaruWRX wrote:how many have had luck exchanging phone numbers?

well, it is tough considering the area code, long distance, time zones, figured it would be maybe easier just exchanging email address?

yeah, met one girl in Shinagawa during my trip to japan, we email sometimes. :bonk:

Gxcad wrote:As far as gay men being attracted to you, I get that a lot... :blahblah: :blahblah: I think first of all when gay men is hitting on you its like they are the man and you are the woman

hmm how do u know that exactly? shouldnt it be the other way around? :rolleyes:

im just saying cuz i do have a lot of gay friends, femme or not. (what do you expect? i go to a fashion school =T )

n society women tend not to ask guys out hence I get asked out in public very little by girls my age

in what year? in this society, usually both guys and girls usually does the approaching nowadays. i know some guys doesnt like girls asking them out, but oh well. i think this may lead to a different topic so im gonna stop :mrgreen:

eesh just reminds me of this topic in the d-addicts forum :sweat:

exchanging phone numbers?

It's not too hard to get a person to give your their number... you just ask, in person, and they'll give it to you... They're more than glad to enter it into your phone for you...

I've been asked for it as well... and, whatever... it's just fine... it's somewhat rude to turn down someone asking for a phone number. That's probably why you can most likely get a number from almost anyone out here.

Hahah Sweet :hehe: :naughty:

Well thanks for entertaining my interest in japanese dating culture for a couple weeks. As you might guess I am back in the states and I think my interest in this thread might decline sharply (or not?). I definately notice a big difference in peoples reaction being in japan vs SF. Well, I still like j-girls but I think I've taken a lot to j-raised j-girls a lot (opposed to america raised j-girls) and I did briefly interact with a couple of them in japan. Too bad japanese girls alone are so hard to find in SF and even harder in most of america, whereas almost everywhere in japan (duh!). Even harder to find a pretty one but very easy in japan, and no guessing if a girl is chinese or korean too, so if you are looking for j-girl of course japan is where to go. Any ways to meet japanese ppl particularly girls in U.S. appreciated~ hehe :victory:

-Ken

Gxcad wrote:Well thanks for entertaining my interest in japanese dating culture for a couple weeks. As you might guess I am back in the states and I think my interest in this thread might decline sharply (or not?). I definately notice a big difference in peoples reaction being in japan vs SF. Well, I still like j-girls but I think I've taken a lot to j-raised j-girls a lot (opposed to america raised j-girls) and I did briefly interact with a couple of them in japan. Too bad japanese girls alone are so hard to find in SF and even harder in most of america, whereas almost everywhere in japan (duh!). Even harder to find a pretty one but very easy in japan, and no guessing if a girl is chinese or korean too, so if you are looking for j-girl of course japan is where to go. Any ways to meet japanese ppl particularly girls in U.S. appreciated~ hehe :victory:

-Ken

College campuses are good places to meet Japanese women. That's where I met most of my Japanese friends. Of course, most of the time you have to be a student or volunteering (serious about it) for international students. Try Japanese-American cultural events too, lots of Japanese nationals on extended stays, business stays, or educational stays join in them. And I must say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

i live in the uk but i have lived in japan in the past. i was fluent in the language but am now trying to re learn it as i've forgotten most of it.

my mother's side of the family is japanese so i do travel there around twice a year.

i met a girl who is a student of my father (he's an english teacher) and i asked her if she would be interested in exchanging letters. she said yes and we moved on from snail mail to e-mail.

when i'm in japan we go out together and have a really good time. language isn't really a problem as long she doesn't talk about the molecular structure of hydrogen!

i guess the point i'm trying to make is that i'm not doing anything different to what i would do if i were entertaining a girl from england. i think just be kind and considerate and have a sense of humour. i believe it's universal.

just one thing though, take your shoes off when at their house! no excuse for that!!

kenjilina wrote:just one thing though, take your shoes off when at their house! no excuse for that!!

Sorry but off topic question/comment.....

All the people I know take off their shoes before entering either others' or their own homes.
On TV, I notice that people walk in dwellings with shoes on.
And some people I have had conversations with regarding the subject were suprised that it is a common practice in Hawaii.
What's the scoops? In Europe or the states, is taking your shoes off before entering not commonly practiced? :crazy:

ahochaude wrote:Sorry but off topic question/comment.....

All the people I know take off their shoes before entering either others' or their own homes.
On TV, I notice that people walk in dwellings with shoes on.
And some people I have had conversations with regarding the subject were suprised that it is a common practice in Hawaii.
What's the scoops? In Europe or the states, is taking your shoes off before entering not commonly practiced? :crazy:

Well ahochaude my shoes come off my mootsie-toosties at my front door in my home because I am a Buddhist. If my guests are Buddhists they take off their shoes when they enter my home. If they are not their shoes stay on. If I go to visit my Buddhist friends' home I ask first. Lets say I visit for social purposes (like dinner) and not religious purposes then my shoes would probably stay on. Do your shoes always face with the toes pointing towards the door? :)

PS. Oh yeah I live on Long Island, NY.

All the people I know take their shoes off before entering homes regardless. It's like an unconditional thing here.
In my house, I leave the shoes I won't use the way I took them off. Usually pointing inwards. If I am to use a pair of shoes, they will be set pointing outwards, facing the door.

ahochaude wrote:All the people I know take their shoes off before entering homes regardless. It's like an unconditional thing here.
In my house, I leave the shoes I won't use the way I took them off. Usually pointing inwards. If I am to use a pair of shoes, they will be set pointing outwards, facing the door.

That is interesting ahochaude. I never knew that about Hawaii. I hope to get there one day. I like taking off my shoes when I enter a home. There is something very humbling about it. So I think I would fit right in, in Hawaii. :D

Yeah, I don't know. It's different. Even Caucasions and African Americans here (that I know of especially) practice this. Not only the second generation Japanese here.
Interesting to see the cultural differences although we are a part of the same country.

in the uk it's not common practice to take off your shoes but i do as i think it's hygenic. what if you've stepped in some dog s***? not nice!

kenjilina wrote:in the uk it's not common practice to take off your shoes but i do as i think it's hygenic. what if you've stepped in some dog s***? not nice!

true, true. but let's not stray TOO far of subject, so let's get back to the topic at hand...(sorry for being the killjoy)

niko2x wrote:so let's get back to the topic at hand..

What was the topic again? :headscratch: :hehe:

niko2x wrote:true, true. but let's not stray TOO far of subject, so let's get back to the topic at hand...(sorry for being the killjoy)

this makes it look like i strayed off the topic!

not guilty.

niko2x wrote:
true, true. but let's not stray TOO far of subject, so let's get back to the topic at hand...(sorry for being the killjoy)

kenjilina wrote:

this makes it look like i strayed off the topic!

not guilty.

Ooooh sorry I helped the topic go a wandering down 'shoes off' lane also! :sweat:

Maybe thats because no one here is dating in Japan right now!!! :bonk: :headscratch: :hehe: :)

ahochaude wrote:Sorry but off topic question/comment.....

All the people I know take off their shoes before entering either others' or their own homes.
On TV, I notice that people walk in dwellings with shoes on.
And some people I have had conversations with regarding the subject were suprised that it is a common practice in Hawaii.
What's the scoops? In Europe or the states, is taking your shoes off before entering not commonly practiced? :crazy:

It's practiced in Austria, that I can guarantee you. Usually you even get some guest slippers.

Personally I hate it when people don't take off their shoes.

I think the topic was dating... So.. shoes off at the first date or not? :bonk:

Toranaga wrote:

It's practiced in Austria, that I can guarantee you. Usually you even get some guest slippers.

Personally I hate it when people don't take off their shoes.

I think the topic was dating... So.. shoes off at the first date or not? :bonk:

on! don't want to put her off with my smelly feet!!