Why don't many Japanese say I Love You/Aishiteru?

Started by *Black_Beauty* · 2 Jun 2005 · 121 replies

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18 Oct 2006, 20:59 #81
In Tentai Kanzoku Odagiri Joe does say "Aishiteru" to Manami Konishi, but he says it over the phone :beatyou:
23 Oct 2006, 15:10 #82
i also heard that aishiteru normally means i like you... it can mean i love you its just use for i like u more.... like daisuki it can make i love you... and i like you... i dunno i kinda confuse hehehe

shiro-chan
1 Nov 2006, 04:58 #83
I have been to Japan before and it is a great country. They have great shopping malls and its very much like the USA. I enjoyed my visit.
1 Nov 2006, 05:01 #84
psychic wrote:I have been to Japan before and it is a great country. They have great shopping malls and its very much like the USA. I enjoyed my visit.


i think they have some of the most amazing department stores i've ever seen in my life.
1 Nov 2006, 05:01 #85
not even CLOSE to being on topic. :shakehead:
1 Nov 2006, 05:04 · edited #86
shiro-chan wrote:i also heard that aishiteru normally means i like you... shiro-chan


actually aishiteru literally means "i love you"

it's from the verb aisuru ˆ¤‚·‚é y‚ ‚¢‚·‚éz to love
1 Nov 2006, 05:07 #87
Tu_triky wrote:

actually aishiteru literally mean "i love you"

it's from the verb aisuru ˆ¤‚·‚é y‚ ‚¢‚·‚éz to love


Toshi agrees. :say_yes:
1 Nov 2006, 05:09 #88
krim wrote:


Toshi agrees. :say_yes:



:lol:
1 Nov 2006, 06:11 #89
:smitten: :inlove: :flyingkiss: , let's have more emoticons for LOVE.
8 Dec 2006, 07:49 #90
whoaa, whoaa.
i`m guessing there`s A LOT of ways to say "i like you" in japanese. .
because i`ve read some posts and they say "daisuki desu" and other things.
but in this video the guy [shoon] from ya-ya-yah says, "daisuki dayo" :/
[ohh, the clip below is short, like 10 seconds! ^^]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfVF1Jfja10

i usually just say flat out "daisuki" is there any differences with these?
1 Mar 2007, 19:29 #91
I think it's kinda kool that 'aishiteru' is not overused in Japanese. 'To love' in English is commonly used in many contexts. I love playing guitar, I loved that movie, etc. Thus the word 'love' lacks it's power in meaning, comparing to 'aisuru'.

In my country girls do use 'I love you' more often than boys, 'cause it's considered to be embarassing for a man to say it aloud in public. I long-term relationship however, males seem to be less embarassed 'bout it.

Personally I tend to do sth like this: in a beging of a relationship with a girl she asks me 'do you love me?'. Normally a guy would reply with his cheeks burning 'y-y-yeah, i do' or sth similar. But I just love seeing girl's face while she hears me replying 'big words don't suit me. i'm not a poet. i'd rather say i find you VERY fascinating'. :naughty:
11 Mar 2007, 13:05 #92
it is used a lot in many languages, but you KNOW when we mean LOVE. its not rocket science. it should be the same for japanese, i dont say id walk across a lions den for you, but i use aisuru with my babygirl everyday and everynight she say da same thang ^___^v :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :applaud: :mrgreen:
12 Mar 2007, 21:07 #93
’jFŽ„‚Æ‚¢‚Á‚µ‚å‚ɍs‚±‚¤I( stand by me/marry me)

—F‚Í‚¢A‚Ç‚±‚ɍs‚­‚́H

It's my japanese teacher 's story.In a summernight, under the trees, He asked his girlfriend to get married with him and she did'nt understand the meaning.How romantic it was, Japanese.
21 Mar 2007, 05:46 #94
First let me say: THIS IS THE MOST DARN INTERESTING AND FUNNY THREAD I'VE EVER READ. And I actually read ALL the posts...lol

anyway...

I was born in Philippines (below Japan, the country that looks like a sideview person) and lived in Canada for the latter half of my life till now and I think it's easier for me to understand this whole concept because I got to live through both societies... and lemme tell you guys, this "I love you" thing is a very sticky business.

In Japan (or rather asian countries) they don't use words like "I love you", unlike in the western part of the world because they are very traditional and the west are shallow insecure people. (NO OFFENSE)

In asia (traditionally) it is very rude to even touch somebody :shocked: My father once told me that his parents married because my grandfather hugged (I think or something, touched) my grandmother. 0__o see how weird it sounds?

Though now, most asian countries have been 'west washed' (especially youngsters) and show in TV people saying 'ILY', hugging casually, and sleeping together like it's nothing. Well, that's TV - just cause someone flies on TV doesn't mean it happens in real life. Growing up, I remember not even knowing about how 'babies were made' until I was grade five, when my nee-chan and cousin told me all about it after they had a class about it at school... (I know.. weird, right?) That just goes to show how 'traditional' asians can get. ONE MORE THING: I'd only seen my parents kiss ONCE in my life (and that was cause they didn't know I was there and they were being sweet *yuck*)
Youngsters, though, say I love you - but in english, not in their native language. I don't know why, it's just easier to say it in english. But I also noticed something... In the ages that kids are scared of 'cooties' here, kids in asia have crushes already... o_0

The thing is, western people are insecure unless they hear those words. Asia believes in acting out the message because words don't mean anything unless you back them up. It's okay to say it rarely, though... it would just mean THAT much more. But think about it... if you hear "I love you" everyday, don't you think it becomes casual and loses the meaning?

Here though, I hug my friends as greetings and stuff and say "I love you" when I'm really thankful to them... but NOT everyday. I would never say it to a guy 1) cus I'm not cheesy 2) I think I would gag. I wasn't even a hug-y person (I guess cus I wasn't born here) but my friend is a hugy person and she's always hugging ^^; so I hug my friends ... JUST my close friends.

The thing is, it's a culture thing and unless you get to experience both sides of the pancake it's difficult to understand. Even though I've lived through both cultures... it's still hard to explain. ^^; sorry, it got SO LONG...lol ^^;;
19 Apr 2007, 01:07 #95
though they often say "dai suki" than "aishitemasu"

i think the recepient can feel the impact of it

by the emotion/posture of the speaker. :sweat:
20 Apr 2007, 12:58 #96
i got surprised with all the reactions i'd read in the topic i'd asked...uhm,actually saying i love you is one way of showing your care to a person.It is not necessary that your girlfriends or boyfriends.This word indicates how sincere you are;how affectionate you are.Well,im not from the west.IM A FILIPINA.but saying this word to the one you loved will make the relationship more stronger.It doesnt mean that you will say it anytime.Some will take years before they can able to say that word,and worst kept it on theirselves.Imagined this I LOVE YOU doesnt exists,can we feel the true essence of LOVE if we dont say this words??No,right??Since,this word is the strongest assurance and also create a trust.On the other hand,I LIKE YOU is more lesser.It wont create anything serious.For me this mean nothing.
20 Apr 2007, 13:11 #97
i cant understand why they discriminate the word I LOVE YOU in japan,when in fact it is one way of letting the person feels that you care..
20 Apr 2007, 13:14 #98
shiro-chan wrote:i also heard that aishiteru normally means i like you... it can mean i love you its just use for i like u more.... like daisuki it can make i love you... and i like you... i dunno i kinda confuse hehehe

shiro-chan


i agree.
20 Apr 2007, 13:16 #99
SilverHanyou5791 wrote:First let me say: THIS IS THE MOST DARN INTERESTING AND FUNNY THREAD I'VE EVER READ. And I actually read ALL the posts...lol

anyway...

I was born in Philippines (below Japan, the country that looks like a sideview person) and lived in Canada for the latter half of my life till now and I think it's easier for me to understand this whole concept because I got to live through both societies... and lemme tell you guys, this "I love you" thing is a very sticky business.

In Japan (or rather asian countries) they don't use words like "I love you", unlike in the western part of the world because they are very traditional and the west are shallow insecure people. (NO OFFENSE)

In asia (traditionally) it is very rude to even touch somebody :shocked: My father once told me that his parents married because my grandfather hugged (I think or something, touched) my grandmother. 0__o see how weird it sounds?

Though now, most asian countries have been 'west washed' (especially youngsters) and show in TV people saying 'ILY', hugging casually, and sleeping together like it's nothing. Well, that's TV - just cause someone flies on TV doesn't mean it happens in real life. Growing up, I remember not even knowing about how 'babies were made' until I was grade five, when my nee-chan and cousin told me all about it after they had a class about it at school... (I know.. weird, right?) That just goes to show how 'traditional' asians can get. ONE MORE THING: I'd only seen my parents kiss ONCE in my life (and that was cause they didn't know I was there and they were being sweet *yuck*)
Youngsters, though, say I love you - but in english, not in their native language. I don't know why, it's just easier to say it in english. But I also noticed something... In the ages that kids are scared of 'cooties' here, kids in asia have crushes already... o_0

The thing is, western people are insecure unless they hear those words. Asia believes in acting out the message because words don't mean anything unless you back them up. It's okay to say it rarely, though... it would just mean THAT much more. But think about it... if you hear "I love you" everyday, don't you think it becomes casual and loses the meaning?

Here though, I hug my friends as greetings and stuff and say "I love you" when I'm really thankful to them... but NOT everyday. I would never say it to a guy 1) cus I'm not cheesy 2) I think I would gag. I wasn't even a hug-y person (I guess cus I wasn't born here) but my friend is a hugy person and she's always hugging ^^; so I hug my friends ... JUST my close friends.

The thing is, it's a culture thing and unless you get to experience both sides of the pancake it's difficult to understand. Even though I've lived through both cultures... it's still hard to explain. ^^; sorry, it got SO LONG...lol ^^;;


got your point.itz more on culture..
20 Apr 2007, 13:18 #100
*Black_Beauty* wrote:I read somewhere online that it's improper to say 'I love you' in Japan. It says that they say 'I like you' instead...does anyone know why that is??


i duno either... :hehe: :hehe:

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