Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice

kitakaze wrote:my workplace being 80% women.

Nice.

And not. :sweat:

kitakaze wrote:I can feel ya cori...I just had two bad experiences. Apparently being a nice guy and being fun isn't enough, lol.

Where do you live again? :beaten:

kitakaze wrote:

Couch? What couch? Haha. Although I don't object to sleeping on the floor. My sleeping bag is more comfortable than my bed.

Oh, and I mean studio. One bedroom is way out of my price range still :sweat:

OMG Kit-kun! You have a studio appartment! I'm so jealous! I once visted my friend's and I instantly fell in love with the open concept. I mean, I've had studios before, but painting studios. I guess every artist wishes for their own studio... whether to work in, or live in.

MissMonika wrote:

And that's why I don't go on blind dates, in general. I find myself in situations that I wished would never happen.

OMG! MissyMon, you have no reason to feel naive and I definitely don't think you're over-reacting. I know exactly how you feel, except my situation did spiral out of control.

Never EVER let a guy you don't know take you out of a public location. Never. I'm so thankful nothing went amiss with you... except for a bad kiss. :glomp:

Dating is supposed to be enjoyable and meaningful, and it has to happen when you're most ready for it. It's totally natural to be turned off after your experience, but I'm sure you'll jump right back into the scene over time. :victory:

The_Lyrics wrote:man, i wanna tell this chick that i like her at work, but i just can't seem to say it.

Spending a lot of time will help. Creating a comfort zone will make it easier. :D

O wait, I just finished reading the comments by the others. Hmmm...

I guess I'll have to take back my advice. I have absolutely NO experience dating. Period.

Come to think of it, I've never really been on a real date before...

Wynter <--- pathetic.

Wynter wrote:Where do you live again?

NorCal... See text under avatar. :victory:

bmwracer wrote:
NorCal... See text under avatar. :victory:

Too much effort. :beaten:

Wynter wrote:Too much effort. :beaten:

Apparently. :P

bmwracer wrote:
Apparently. :P

You've successfully made me feel dumb.

I live in San Leandro, right across the bay from San Francisco :mrgreen: .

And...uh, and studio apartment in CA is usually just a one room apartment or space with a bathroom. In places like San Leandro and San Francisco, they're often converted spaces in houses, like part of a garage, or a downstairs den.

Wynter wrote:

Come to think of it, I've never really been on a real date before...

Wynter <--- pathetic.

Nah, you're not pathetic. :) . I mean, you usually sound pretty sweet. That's a good quality. Most of the experience I've had with women has been bad, so...I'm not much better. Do you still have your blogspot, BTW?

kitakaze wrote:Do you still have your blogspot, BTW?

It's relocated under the Witness Protection Program.

kitakaze wrote:Nah, you're not pathetic. :) . I mean, you usually sound pretty sweet.

Usually. :beaten:

That's a good quality. Most of the experience I've had with women has been bad, so...I'm not much better.

I think good girls get the same problems as good guys do. I mean, I'm probably so good that I'm boring. I'm also a homebody, and therefore have very little exposure. I've given up under the realization that I'm a lost cause. And as B-san says, if it'll happen, it'll happen.

bmwracer wrote:
It's relocated under the Witness Protection Program.

LOL! You mean the Wynter Protection Program. :beaten:

Wynter wrote:You mean the Wynter Protection Program. :beaten:

LOL.

Good one. :thumbsup: :hehe:

Anime Dad wrote:

Have a chat to cori. I think she has one of those signs too :sweat:

Tell me about it. Only thing is my sign is more like "Come get me creepy old guys! Loser a$$holes too!" :grumble:

Wynter wrote:I think good girls get the same problems as good guys do. I mean, I'm probably so good that I'm boring. I'm also a homebody, and therefore have very little exposure. I've given up under the realization that I'm a lost cause. And as B-san says, if it'll happen, it'll happen.

You sound a lot like me. I'm a homebody and hardly go out unless it's with friends and that's kind of rare these days. :sweat: Plus we don't really go to places where you can really meet people.

cori wrote:

You sound a like like me. I'm a homebody and hardly go out unless it's with friends and that's kind of rare these days. :sweat: Plus we don't really go to places where you can really meet people.

Yes exactly! And whereas you get the older guys, I get the married ones... or students. :bleh:

But at least guys are attracted to you enough to date you. Guys rarely look up at my eyes, if you know what I mean. :shakehead:

Wynter wrote:
Dating is supposed to be enjoyable and meaningful, and it has to happen when you're most ready for it. It's totally natural to be turned off after your experience, but I'm sure you'll jump right back into the scene over time.

Yea, I'm not gonna jump on dating again for awhile. And the truth is, I was never really into dating in the first place. From another person's perspective, I'm probably a boring person. I love to stay at home and am normally very quiet and introverted. I can live without guys and dating for awhile yet.
:mrgreen:

cori wrote:Plus we don't really go to places where you can really meet people.

I think that's the problem: you're trying to force the issue...




Yeah, I should talk: I'm waiting for Ms. Right to knock on my door and jump in my arms... :crazy:

Wynter wrote:

Yes exactly! And whereas you get the older guys, I get the married ones... or students. :bleh:

But at least guys are attracted to you enough to date you. Guys rarely look up at my eyes, if you know what I mean. :shakehead:

I got a married one too. Not fun at all and very uncomfortable.

And I don't have much (*ahem*) assets so I wonder what the heck they're attracted to. :hehe:

bmwracer wrote:Yeah, I should talk: I'm waiting for Ms. Right to knock on my door and jump in my arms... :crazy:

Where's Juri-chan when you need her? :hehe: :rofl:

cori wrote:Tell me about it. Only thing is my sign is more like "Come get me creepy old guys! Loser a$$holes too!"

LOL. I dunno which is worse. Creepy old guys or creepy, conceited young guys. :bleh:

MissMonika wrote:Where's Juri-chan when you need her?

I didn't want to name drop... :beaten:

LOL. I dunno which is worse. Creepy old guys or creepy, conceited young guys. :bleh:

From your description, creepy and conceited young guys. :beaten:

Old guys are just creepy and not conceited, so they're only half bad. :hehe:

bmwracer wrote:
I think that's the problem: you're trying to force the issue...

I don't think I'm forcing the issue if I'm not actively going out and looking for someone. :sweat:

Yeah, I should talk: I'm waiting for Ms. Right to knock on my door and jump in my arms... :crazy:

If only stuff like that would happen in real life..

MissMonika wrote:

Yea, I'm not gonna jump on dating again for awhile. And the truth is, I was never really into dating in the first place. From another person's perspective, I'm probably a boring person. I love to stay at home and am normally very quiet and introverted. I can live without guys and dating for awhile yet.
:mrgreen:

Yea, believe it or not, but I'm actually a quiet person too... I mean, I know I'm talkative and generally easy going, but that doesn't mean I'm an open book. And I have no experience with men in general. I prolly wouldn't even know if a guy was trying to pick me up. :beaten:

cori wrote:

I got a married one too. Not fun at all and very uncomfortable.

And I don't have much (*ahem*) assets so I wonder what the heck they're attracted to. :hehe:

Gorgeous face, long hair, and personality? :mrgreen: I think you have loads working for you.

MissMonika wrote:

LOL. I dunno which is worse. Creepy old guys or creepy, conceited young guys. :bleh:

Definitely both are equal. :bleh:

I'm a homebody too...so I think that's one of the reasons we don't really get anyone. I mean, you have to go out to meet people. :puppydog: I'd rather stay at home...but right now, I don't care for the place I live at, so I go out a lot more than I used to. It's kind of scary out there to tell the truth. :sweat: