Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice

That's unfortunate, MissyMon. The other bad thing is, it might put you off other guys. I'm happy for you that you're OK, though.

Anime Dad wrote:That's unfortunate, MissyMon. The other bad thing is, it might put you off other guys. I'm happy for you that you're OK, though.

Yea, I'm alright. But it's true, though, after what happened yesterday, I have no interest in dating right now. Not that I'm not looking, but it really put me off to guys in general. I know there are nice, decent guys out there but for some reason, I always attract the weird ones. Like I have an invisible sign on my forehead that says, "Creepy Guys, Come Get Me" or something. X_X :sweat:

MissMonika wrote: Like I have an invisible sign on my forehead that says, "Creepy Guys, Come Get Me"

LOL.


BTW, did you tell your story to the "friend" who set you up on the blind date?

He/she must be feeling pretty bad right now... :sweat:

MissMonika wrote:

Yea, I'm alright. But it's true, though, after what happened yesterday, I have no interest in dating right now. Not that I'm not looking, but it really put me off to guys in general. I know there are nice, decent guys out there but for some reason, I always attract the weird ones. Like I have an invisible sign on my forehead that says, "Creepy Guys, Come Get Me" or something. X_X :sweat:

Have a chat to cori. I think she has one of those signs too :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
BTW, did you tell your story to the "friend" who set you up on the blind date?

He/she must be feeling pretty bad right now... :sweat:

Yea, I did tell her actually, and she does feel really bad. She told me she doesn't really know the guy, only that he's a co-worker and seemed friendly enough. But it's ok, I don't blame her or anything like that. She didn't know the guy was shady and was gonna pull something like that.

MissMonika wrote:Yea, I did tell her actually, and she does feel really bad. She told me she doesn't really know the guy, only that he's a co-worker and seemed friendly enough. But it's ok, I don't blame her or anything like that. She didn't know the guy was shady and was gonna pull something like that.

Yow, what way to end the year... But better at the end than at the beginning, ne? :sweat:

From Yahoo! Health:

Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship
Posted Thu, Dec 20, 2007, 1:54 pm PST

I know that flirting can be a huge source of contempt in relationships. Some guys see their partners flirting with other men and go ballistic. Some women see guys flirting with other women and think he's trying to score.

And while I know that flirting can be a dangerous game if you're playing with the wrong people, I also believe that flirting can be healthy - as long as you're taking the energy you're building and putting it back into your relationship.

So, what can innocent flirting with a co-worker, stranger, or random bartender do to help your relationship? More than you may think.

Flirting Gives You Confidence
A relationship progresses after some time, and both sides fall into the same rut of Friday pizza, Saturday out, and sleepy Sunday. Same old, same old. The message: We're stuck together, we're comfortable together, and we may be perfectly content together.

All well and good, but that does as much for your romantic confidence as having spinach in your teeth. What flirting allows you to do is feel like you're impressing another person and being attractive to another person - without the baggage, stigma, and pressures of the next step. Bringing that sexual and romantic confidence back to your relationship helps you - and strengthens the relationship across the board.

Flirting Keeps You Sharp
Being wanted is one of our most basic needs. Sometimes, when we're in relationships, we don't always get that positive vibe - that we're wanted, needed, and desired.

Every once in a while, flirting can reinforce that primitive need of feeling valued. And that little innocent dialogue with some stranger in a bookstore may be all the kick-start you need to lose a little weight or change up your hair or whatever it is that you want to do to make yourself feel better about yourself. Which has benefits for everyone involved.

Flirting Lets You Build Up Sexual Energy
Some shrinks say it's OK to fantasize about anyone you want and build up a head of steam - as long as you, well, go ahead then and release that pent up energy with your partner.

So in a way, you can use flirting as a kind of foreplay. Build a little frisky tension with the barista, get warmed up, then bring home the dividends. And when you're at home, leave a copy of this list around the house. Think of it as a kind of flirting with your partner - and a fun to-do list.

Flirting Reminds You How Good You Have It
The fun of flirting is that there are no strings attached. Just some good ole banter with jokes, laughs, and some well-timed sexual innuendo. Fun at first. But when you think of the long process that comes after, it makes you realize that what you've got at home is exactly what you want.

man, i wanna tell this chick that i like her at work, but i just can't seem to say it.

MissMonika wrote:

He sure did kiss like a toad. When I got home, I brushed my teeth for like 15 minutes because I felt so dirty.

Thank goodness for good old minty fresh breath....

Toads... :bleh: :bleh:

The_Lyrics wrote:man, i wanna tell this chick that i like her at work, but i just can't seem to say it.

You might wanna refrain: work-related romances are trouble. :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
You might wanna refrain: work-related romances are trouble. :sweat:

why is that?

The_Lyrics wrote:why is that?

You'll see each other too much and possibly get sick of each other...

OR

If you guys break up, then it'll be awkward seeing each other at work... :sweat:

Lotsa people (including me) say "It'll never happen to me..." but it does... There are exceptions, I'm sure, but I think they're rare... :fingerscrossed:

bmwracer wrote:

The_Lyrics wrote:
man, i wanna tell this chick that i like her at work, but i just can't seem to say it.

You might wanna refrain: work-related romances are trouble.

Yeah...I uh...had problems with that the past few months. It's not good when it does happen. Good thing I don't need to talk to her to do my job. :sweat: Just be careful

kitakaze wrote:Yeah...I uh...had problems with that the past few months. It's not good when it does happen. Good thing I don't need to talk to her to do my job. :sweat: Just be careful

Yeah, when it happened to me it was a major drag... Fortunately, she was leaving the company before the break up.

Actually, that might've been the cause of the break up. :beaten:

The_Lyrics wrote:

why is that?

In addtion to what Racer and kitakaze said, your life will turn into a non-stop soap opera. It's o.k. to watch dramas, but it ain't o.k. to live one. :beaten: [/list:u]

gaijinmark wrote: In addtion to what Racer and kitakaze said, your life will turn into a non-stop soap opera. It's o.k. to watch dramas, but it ain't o.k. to live one. :beaten: [/list:u]

True that, dude. :sweat: :sweat: :sweat:

gaijinmark wrote: It's o.k. to watch dramas, but it ain't o.k. to live one. :beaten: [/list:u]

I can attest to that first hand unfortunately. And I didnt even date co-workers.
:sweat: :beaten:

Eve wrote:I can attest to that first hand unfortunately. And I didnt even date co-workers.
:sweat: :beaten:

Seems like everyone's been through that drama once in their lives... :sweat:

bmwracer wrote:
Seems like everyone's been through that drama once in their lives... :sweat:

Or at least once... :beaten:

Or twice..... :dielaughing:

gaijinmark wrote: In addtion to what Racer and kitakaze said, your life will turn into a non-stop soap opera. It's o.k. to watch dramas, but it ain't o.k. to live one. :beaten: [/list:u]

Yeah, it kind of turns into a little soap opera for the girls circle. Until then, I had no idea that something I said would be parsed over by the girls way over in the computer room on the other side of the building. I guess I should of guessed it, my workplace being 80% women.