Wynter wrote:It means you won, but , male ego being what it is, he felt like he had to get in the last word. Like everybody else said, just ignore from here on out as much as possible. [/list:u]
What the heck does THAT mean?!
Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice
Started by Fans91 · 30 Jan 2004 · 2,293 replies
General Discussion
gaijinmark wrote: It means you won, but , male ego being what it is, he felt like he had to get in the last word. Like everybody else said, just ignore from here on out as much as possible. [/list:u]
Yea, mebbe I'm caring too much about the whole issue. I'll drop it. :D
Btw, I DID receive a Christmas present from a certain someone I adore. It's sitting on my desk as we speak. :muack:
Wynter wrote:Hmm, I wonder who that might be? :headscratch: [/list:u]
Btw, I DID receive a Christmas present from a certain someone I adore. It's sitting on my desk as we speak. :muack:
gaijinmark wrote: Hmm, I wonder who that might be? :headscratch: [/list:u]
Me too.... ;) :headscratch:
From Yahoo! Personals:
Top five signs you're about to get dumped
1. Picking fights.
No one is saying you have to get along 24/7. Constructive conflict can actually be good for your relationship. But if you find that your partner has become argumentative over petty issues like your clothes or choice of restaurant, that should serve as a warning sign that he/she may be looking for an excuse to bail.
2. Forgetting to call.
Used to be that your phone would ring all day long with your sweetie wanting to make plans or calling just to say, "I love you." Now your significant other doesn't even call when he/she is running three hours late. It may seem obvious, but going from speed dial to a blocked number is a sure sign that your relationship may be nearing its expiration date.
3. Changing their stripes.
A major change in appearance can be a sign that your partner is looking toward greener pastures. Whether they've chopped off their hair, lost 40 pounds or gone from a bold brunette to a sultry blonde, major cosmetic changes should be noted. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being a little vain, but if the change is accompanied by any of the other signs listed here, you may need to get ready to go solo.
4. Criticizing.
If your sweetie isn't feeling you anymore, don't be surprised if he/she becomes less tolerant of everything, from how you brush your teeth to how you tie your shoes. Constant criticism is a telltale sign that your days as a twosome are numbered.
5. Losing sexual interest.
A healthy sex life can make or break a relationship. If you find that your partner is becoming more sexually aloof, you need to get to the root of the issue. While it's natural to have less sex as you settle into a comfortable groove together, waiting weeks or months to have sexual contact is a sign that something is amiss.
Now that you know the warning signs, don't panic. Just because your partner exhibits some of these behaviors, that doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over. In fact, it's usually a combination of signs and not one isolated incident that foreshadows a breakup.
If you're worried that your partner is itching to get out, the most important thing you can do is sit down and discuss your issues in an honest and open manner. If you take these signs as your cue to improve communication, your relationship may just have a fighting chance.
Top five signs you're about to get dumped
1. Picking fights.
No one is saying you have to get along 24/7. Constructive conflict can actually be good for your relationship. But if you find that your partner has become argumentative over petty issues like your clothes or choice of restaurant, that should serve as a warning sign that he/she may be looking for an excuse to bail.
2. Forgetting to call.
Used to be that your phone would ring all day long with your sweetie wanting to make plans or calling just to say, "I love you." Now your significant other doesn't even call when he/she is running three hours late. It may seem obvious, but going from speed dial to a blocked number is a sure sign that your relationship may be nearing its expiration date.
3. Changing their stripes.
A major change in appearance can be a sign that your partner is looking toward greener pastures. Whether they've chopped off their hair, lost 40 pounds or gone from a bold brunette to a sultry blonde, major cosmetic changes should be noted. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being a little vain, but if the change is accompanied by any of the other signs listed here, you may need to get ready to go solo.
4. Criticizing.
If your sweetie isn't feeling you anymore, don't be surprised if he/she becomes less tolerant of everything, from how you brush your teeth to how you tie your shoes. Constant criticism is a telltale sign that your days as a twosome are numbered.
5. Losing sexual interest.
A healthy sex life can make or break a relationship. If you find that your partner is becoming more sexually aloof, you need to get to the root of the issue. While it's natural to have less sex as you settle into a comfortable groove together, waiting weeks or months to have sexual contact is a sign that something is amiss.
Now that you know the warning signs, don't panic. Just because your partner exhibits some of these behaviors, that doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over. In fact, it's usually a combination of signs and not one isolated incident that foreshadows a breakup.
If you're worried that your partner is itching to get out, the most important thing you can do is sit down and discuss your issues in an honest and open manner. If you take these signs as your cue to improve communication, your relationship may just have a fighting chance.
bmwracer wrote:From Yahoo! Personals:
Top five signs you're about to get dumped
Or Top Five signs that youve been married for a long time to someone who doesnt appreciate you. :lol:
Wynter wrote:
Ya know, I've never "done" things before. I've never even smoked a cig, which is surprising because almost all the friends I grew up with smoke.
On Topic: I don't know if I posted this already, but a colleague of mine, who I get along wonderfully with, asked me to go out with him. Problem is, he's married. When I told him that was impossible, because I'm NOT a home wrecker, he was like "but you're young!"
:dotdotdot:
I wasn't aware that being young meant I was open to having an affair...
If colleague means co-worker, then put your foot down. If he persists, then it's the money-shot "sexual harrasment". We all spend countless work hours taking the sensitivity training, you might as well put it to use on him. If you have to avoid him, it means his advances is affecting your ability to work. Or do BMWracer's money-shot to the twig and giggle berries. :shocked:
Kijinnmaru wrote:If colleague means co-worker
That's exactly what she means. :sweat:
gaijinmark wrote: Hmm, I wonder who that might be? :headscratch: [/list:u]
I'll give you three guesses.
Kijinnmaru wrote:
If colleague means co-worker, then put your foot down. If he persists, then it's the money-shot "sexual harrasment". We all spend countless work hours taking the sensitivity training, you might as well put it to use on him. If you have to avoid him, it means his advances is affecting your ability to work. Or do BMWracer's money-shot to the twig and giggle berries. :shocked:
I think he's got the hint. He sat at my table for the Christmas Lunch but didn't say a word after "Hi".
Wynter wrote:Cool! Sounds like his ego is severely deflated, which is this case is a good thing. I'm feeling sorry for his wife though. :puppydog: [/list:u]
I think he's got the hint. He sat at my table for the Christmas Lunch but didn't say a word after "Hi".
gaijinmark wrote:Cool! Sounds like his ego is severely deflated, which is this case is a good thing.
I think Wyn-chan did hear the sound of a bubble bursting. ;)
I'm feeling sorry for his wife though. :puppydog:
Yeah, she's the real loser here... :(
gaijinmark wrote: Cool! Sounds like his ego is severely deflated, which is this case is a good thing. I'm feeling sorry for his wife though. :puppydog: [/list:u]
Me too! That's why I want to give her the head's up, tho I think Eve is right about her prolly not believing me. :pout:
bmwracer wrote:
Yeah, she's the real loser here... :(
Totally, and I feel really guilty about it. :shamefulcry:
Wynter wrote:
Totally, and I feel really guilty about it. :shamefulcry:
Leave the guilt to him; he's the one who should be feeling it.
It really is hard to say what your next course should be. It's the same reason I don't step in during domestic disputes; after monkey-stomping an abusive husband/boyfriend, I would likely be the one she send to jail. Your colleague's wife will have to deal with it when it happens again, and it likely will. It's not your problem anymore.
Wynter wrote:Me too! That's why I want to give her the head's up, tho I think Eve is right about her prolly not believing me.
Yeah, I'd leave that alone...
The saying "The best intentions....." comes to mind. :sweat: :sweat: :sweat:
5 Sure-Fire Ways to Spark Her Interest
By David Wygant
Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Dec 15, 2007
Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman. But through all my years of coaching men and women, I have found that it is not what you say that's important, but how you approach. Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man's character. They don't care what you say, as long as you say it without hesitation and with authority. Unfortunately, most men don't know this, so they walk over to a woman like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected. When you approach like a wounded animal, you will be rejected every single time -- no matter how clever a remark you may have.
With 80 percent of human interaction based on nonverbal body language, what is a man to do? The key to impressing her right off the bat is to be different from all the other men who are approaching her that evening.
Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing, even if you are not sure what you are going to say:
1. Walk with confidence. When you see a woman that you are attracted to, walk right over. Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. Keep eye contact as you approach. Do not hesitate. Most men linger in the background before they approach, then, when you finally do approach, she is quick to turn her back on you. The reason is that you did not exude confidence. Most women notice who is observing them.When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well go home.
2. Lose the male pack. When out on the town, avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the "male pack" -- you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. When you approach a woman with your buddies waiting on the sideline, she will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. Break away from the male pack and find one other guy to go out on the town with. Save the male bonding for a sports bar.
3. Dress for a strong appearance. Make sure you're not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. If you look like a slob, it will not matter what your body language says, because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women. Buy clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge, so when you walk in with the right body language, women will see you. Keep in mind that shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.
4. Create a spark within her. Most men's conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hopes that she likes you. In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring! You need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into a conversation about summer movies and she says that "Spiderman III" was her favorite Spidey movie so far. Instead of being agreeable, look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong -- the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtatious verbal sparring, which will create a spark in her brain. She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.
5. Maintain some tension. Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the better your chances. When you call her, you will have more things to talk about. Before calling a woman, I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it. For example, going back to the example of "Spiderman III," I would text her the next day: "I was thinking U + I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time + place + I'll bring the DVD."
She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her. Plus, you are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and schedule a predictable dinner date.
By David Wygant
Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Dec 15, 2007
Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman. But through all my years of coaching men and women, I have found that it is not what you say that's important, but how you approach. Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man's character. They don't care what you say, as long as you say it without hesitation and with authority. Unfortunately, most men don't know this, so they walk over to a woman like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected. When you approach like a wounded animal, you will be rejected every single time -- no matter how clever a remark you may have.
With 80 percent of human interaction based on nonverbal body language, what is a man to do? The key to impressing her right off the bat is to be different from all the other men who are approaching her that evening.
Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing, even if you are not sure what you are going to say:
1. Walk with confidence. When you see a woman that you are attracted to, walk right over. Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. Keep eye contact as you approach. Do not hesitate. Most men linger in the background before they approach, then, when you finally do approach, she is quick to turn her back on you. The reason is that you did not exude confidence. Most women notice who is observing them.When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well go home.
2. Lose the male pack. When out on the town, avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the "male pack" -- you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. When you approach a woman with your buddies waiting on the sideline, she will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. Break away from the male pack and find one other guy to go out on the town with. Save the male bonding for a sports bar.
3. Dress for a strong appearance. Make sure you're not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. If you look like a slob, it will not matter what your body language says, because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women. Buy clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge, so when you walk in with the right body language, women will see you. Keep in mind that shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.
4. Create a spark within her. Most men's conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hopes that she likes you. In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring! You need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into a conversation about summer movies and she says that "Spiderman III" was her favorite Spidey movie so far. Instead of being agreeable, look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong -- the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtatious verbal sparring, which will create a spark in her brain. She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.
5. Maintain some tension. Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the better your chances. When you call her, you will have more things to talk about. Before calling a woman, I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it. For example, going back to the example of "Spiderman III," I would text her the next day: "I was thinking U + I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time + place + I'll bring the DVD."
She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her. Plus, you are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and schedule a predictable dinner date.
bmwracer wrote:This is so true. I always make sure I'm wearing the appropriate t-shirt. :beaten: [/list:u]
3. Dress for a strong appearance.
gaijinmark wrote: This is so true. I always make sure I'm wearing the appropriate t-shirt. :beaten: [/list:u]
The t-shirt that says "I'm looking for a Japanese girlfriend" in Japanese? :victory:
gaijinmark wrote: This is so true. I always make sure I'm wearing the appropriate t-shirt. :beaten: [/list:u]
If it's a well-fitted T-shirt, then that's cool. Of course, being that I'm in Hawaii, that's pretty much what most guys wear anyway. :beaten:
And I can tell the menfolk that confidence is the key. Confidence, NOT arrogance.
bmwracer wrote:I think Q bought up all those. (where is he anyway?) [/list:u]
The t-shirt that says "I'm looking for a Japanese girlfriend" in Japanese? :victory:
bmwracer wrote:1. Walk with confidence. When you see a woman that you are attracted to, walk right over. Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. Keep eye contact as you approach. Do not hesitate. Most men linger in the background before they approach, then, when you finally do approach, she is quick to turn her back on you. The reason is that you did not exude confidence. Most women notice who is observing them.When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well go home.
This doesn't apply to me. I don't mind the slumped up guy in the corner either. If a guy shows too much confidence (puffed out chest? Really now), then my confidence slips. I'm prone to go sit with that guy in the corner.
2. Lose the male pack. When out on the town, avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the "male pack" -- you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. When you approach a woman with your buddies waiting on the sideline, she will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. Break away from the male pack and find one other guy to go out on the town with. Save the male bonding for a sports bar.
YESH! This definitely applies!
3. Dress for a strong appearance. Make sure you're not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. If you look like a slob, it will not matter what your body language says, because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women. Buy clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge, so when you walk in with the right body language, women will see you. Keep in mind that shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.
I don't know about the shoe thing... (I guess cause I'm not into shoes myself) but I do agree this one. It applies. What you wear can be a huge turn on and/or turn off. Of course, this really depends on taste of style, and can't be specific or general interms of what to wear and what to wear. It's all a hit-or-miss deal.
4. Create a spark within her. Most men's conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hopes that she likes you. In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring! You need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into a conversation about summer movies and she says that "Spiderman III" was her favorite Spidey movie so far. Instead of being agreeable, look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong -- the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtatious verbal sparring, which will create a spark in her brain. She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.
Erm... I don't have enough experience with men to know if this applies are not... >>so pathetic<< :shamefulcry:
5. Maintain some tension. Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the better your chances. When you call her, you will have more things to talk about. Before calling a woman, I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it. For example, going back to the example of "Spiderman III," I would text her the next day: "I was thinking U + I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time + place + I'll bring the DVD."
Hmmmm... this could also get annoying. I guess it depends on who you are. I like a good debate, but not when it draws on and on until it becomes a battle about who's right. I'll usually give in just to stop the topic from going out of control.
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