bmwracer wrote:
Yup.
Prototypical Christmas funk. :sweat:
:say_yes: You aren't speaking from experience, are you?
:say_yes: You aren't speaking from experience, are you?
Love/Relationship/Potential Relationship Advice
Started by Fans91 · 30 Jan 2004 · 2,293 replies
General Discussion
:say_yes: You aren't speaking from experience, are you?
Wynter wrote::say_yes: You aren't speaking from experience, are you?
Nope.
I don't particularly get depressed come Xmas time... I'm used to being by myself... The Xmas shopping is a pain, but with the internet, it's all good. :victory:
LOL, like it says in an old song (forget which one) "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"
Anime Dad wrote:"Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"
LOL, that's great.
And so true. :)
Anime Dad wrote:LOL, like it says in an old song (forget which one) "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"It's from John Lennon's song Beautiful Boy and for some of us, that isn't old. :puppydog: [/list:u]
gaijinmark wrote: It's from John Lennon's song Beautiful Boy and for some of us, that isn't old. :puppydog: [/list:u]
I knew it was a Lennon song :banghead:
BTW. it's over 25 years since Lennon was killed. Doesn't seem like it huh?
Anime Dad wrote:LOL, like it says in an old song (forget which one) "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"
That completely applies here!
Here too :)
From Yahoo! Personals:
10 Tips for Approaching Women
Most guys get caught up in guessing what to say; here's what they really should do
By David Wygant Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Dec 20, 2007
What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.
Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the
confidence you display when approaching her.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here. Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.
2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.
3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.
5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.
6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.
8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.
9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like " I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.
The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.
10 Tips for Approaching Women
Most guys get caught up in guessing what to say; here's what they really should do
By David Wygant Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Dec 20, 2007
What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.
Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the
confidence you display when approaching her.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here. Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.
2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.
3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.
5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.
6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.
8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.
9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like " I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.
The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.
bmwracer wrote:From Yahoo! Personals:
10 Tips for Approaching Women
b]1. Observe something.[/b] Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here. Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.
OMG! That's exactly what the guy at the pet store did! It worked. lol
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.
Totally.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.
YESH! omg, I never realized this before, it's very true.
Wynter wrote:10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.
YESH! omg, I never realized this before, it's very true.
In the Seinfeldian World, that would be classified as a Close Talker. :hehe:
Personally, I hate close talkers. :usuck:
Does her cleavage count? :P :hehe: :beaten:
Someone said to me: atashi wa tabana-san nokoto wa totemo daisuki desu. :smitten:
and: yokattara, watashi to kekkon shimasuka? :inlove:
but, she's so far away. :puppydog: :shamefulcry:
bmwracer wrote:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment.
Does her cleavage count? :P :hehe: :beaten:
Someone said to me: atashi wa tabana-san nokoto wa totemo daisuki desu. :smitten:
and: yokattara, watashi to kekkon shimasuka? :inlove:
but, she's so far away. :puppydog: :shamefulcry:
tabana wrote:Does her cleavage count? :P :hehe: :beaten:
Probably.
But it's a risky subject. :beaten: :hehe:
Someone asked me for my phone number today. The problem is he already has a girlfriend. Gah, I hate guys that do stuff like this. I probably wouldn't have given it to him even if he didn't have a gf because although he's cute, he's not my type. I prefer guys with intelligence and those who think with their heads, not their d*cks.
cori wrote:Someone asked me for my phone number today. The problem is he already has a girlfriend. Gah, I hate guys that do stuff like this.
Did you tell him to his face?
How'd you know he had a gf?
I prefer guys with intelligence and those who think with their heads, not their d*cks.
Problem is, they're typically in the same location. :beaten:
bmwracer wrote:Did you tell him to his face?
How'd you know he had a gf?
Well, he called me up at work when he asked me for my phone number, but he's mentioned several times in person that he thought I was gorgeous (whatever :rolleyes: ) and wanted to take me out, but I just laughed it off and said no.
And the reason I know he has a gf is because they are both patients in our office. :shakehead:
Problem is, they're typically in the same location. :beaten:
Yeah, seems that way. :/
cori wrote:And the reason I know he has a gf is because they are both patients in our office.
And you've seen them together?
Regardless, he's an idiot for numerous reasons... Hope his gf wises up. :sweat:
bmwracer wrote:
Regardless, he's an idiot for numerous reasons... Hope his gf wises up. :sweat:
At least he has good taste :D
bmwracer wrote:
And you've seen them together?
Regardless, he's an idiot for numerous reasons... Hope his gf wises up. :sweat:
Well, they both came in my office together, which is how I knew they were a couple. I got a chance to talk to her and she's really sweet. I think the guy's problem is he likes Japanese girls, but his gf is Filipino. Dumbass should've got a Jp girl instead if that's what he prefers. :shakehead:
The other stupid part is that the guy really thinks that his gf is the nicest girl that he's been with and he likes that she's intelligent too. Too bad she's too stupid to realize that he's asking other girls out too. :(
Anime Dad wrote:
At least he has good taste :D
You're too sweet. :) I just wish someone relatively normal would ask me out though. Preferably a computer geek. :beaten:
cori wrote:Define "normal" [/list:u]
You're too sweet. :) I just wish someone relatively normal would ask me out though. Preferably a computer geek. :beaten:
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